Received a wedding invitation from my friend addressed to me and my ex

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
43300 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sheeply:  Give her the benefit out of the doubt that she was hit with an attack of “bride brain”.

Post # 2
557 posts
Busy bee

lol that is pretty funny. We had an invitation to something (we obviously do not know what) mailed to our house addressed to SO’s ex-wife and her boyfriend…umm hello if you know her well enough to know her bf’s name to invite them somewhere, you should know she DIDN’T get the house and DOES NOT live with us. Definitely made us laugh.

Post # 4
588 posts
Busy bee

sheeply:  You guys have been broken up so long that at least it’s kind of funny. Maybe a relative copied the names/addresses from a really old address book? I keep a Google document with all our friends/family’s mailing addresses, and I discovered when looking one up earlier this year that I had some ex-partners still listed together.

Post # 5
1878 posts
Buzzing bee

Bride brain. I’m sure it was an honest mistake. Give her a call and let her know.

Post # 6
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

At least you see the humor in the mistake! The day before my invitations went out, one of my friends broke up with his boyfriend.  SO glad that I caught that one before mailing them out.

Post # 7
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Haha that is too funny. I’d call her so she doesn’t accidentally write your ex’s name on a place card or something haha

Post # 8
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

bride brain! happens to everyone (: i’d mention it to her and laugh about it.

Post # 9
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

sheeply: I would be annoyed (secretly), but I’m sure it was an honest mistake. Maybe you should do the same to her when you send out your invites. Haha, just kidding. 

Post # 10
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s been long enough that it’s hilarious. Just cross his name off and add your FI’s on the RSVP and send it back. No need to tell her she messed up unless you think she’ll laugh. She may be super embarrassed! This is the only time I’d advocate adding a person to a RSVP card haha!

Post # 11
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

IF SHE WOULD LAUGH AT THIS: I’d call her up and say “Hey – I know you put down Helicopter (that’s what my friends called my ex – seriously!) for the wedding – would it be cool if I brought Future Husband instead? You know, since good ol’ Helicopter was kind of a jerk and we haven’t talked in six years.”

And then I’d send her a fake wedding card, the cheesiest I could find (or print a corny one at home – yessss) and sign it: Love, Friend & <s>Helicopter</s> Future Husband!!!!<br />(and slip in a little Starbucks gift card to help make sure she knew I loved her haha)

Post # 12
4089 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

sheeply:   I can see myself doing just that.  I have had some spectacular moments of bride brain.  LOL   

Post # 13
1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

My parents sent out my invites and I have been amazed at the small errors that have happened despite my desperate attempts at checking and rechecking. They just don’t know my friends like I do. Maybe something like that happened?  I’d just change the name and send it back. She’ll probably be really embarrassed. 

Post # 14
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It could well have been her mom, or sister, addressing that one.  “Dear, is Betty still with that Harold Jenkins fellow?”  *Bride covers telephone with hand* “Um, yeah, sure, Mom.  That sounds right.” *uncovers phone*  WHAT DO YOU MEAN IT WON’T BE READY UNTIL THE 27th!?!?!”

Post # 15
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Haha that’s kind of awesomely funny. You should respond that he can’t make it, but you’re bringing this “other guy” instead. 

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