Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
My cousin is getting married the week before me. Whatevs, two of our best friends are getting the married after as well. We aren’t close and haven’t seen each other in years. I don’t plan on going to their wedding in the states and they won’t be coming to mine.
So here it is:
My mom recieved the invitiation yesterday. That’s right – for a wedding 10 months away. RSVP is 5 months out. But sure I’ll let this one slide. It was only addressed to her. Not her husband of 15 years or her three kids. BUT written on a sticky note – oh yes, sticky note, ya know the yellow flourescent monsters – it said if you feel like it husband, kid one, kid two (but not my fiance) and kid three (but not his wife) can come too. Ummm… The other families invites look like: Aunt, Uncle, cousin 1, couin 2. Not a single cousin lives at home anymore, we are all in our mid-twenties but all cousins were lumped in with their parents and not allowed to bring their husbands or wives.
I am not offended or hurt in anyway. I just find it hilarious that you can be this far along in the wedding process and break sooooo many etiquette rules. Not even “I’m gonna be a crazy free spirit bride and do what I want!” but common sense, steadfast, set in stone kind of rules. But hey, whatever I do now won’t even come close to touching this etiquette disaster!
Post # 3
@Pixienickie: Too many people obviously have never heard about Google. Even if their parents failed to teach them proper manners , the information is readily accessible online.
We see examples here on WeddingBee all the time.
Post # 4
@Pixienickie: Omg. I was taking a sip of my water at the wrong moment reading this title.
Wowza. That is just so incredibly… wrong. Even before I joined this lovely forum I knew that that was a biiiig no-no! I can’t believe she actually used a post-it. That’s just comical.
Post # 5
@Pixienickie: Do you think theres any chance they sent the invites out so early because they think they might have competition for guests at your wedding?
Either way, that is crazy early and crazy weird!
Post # 6
Wow. That is crazy. What puzzles me most is why she didn’t just wait and redo the invites so that she wouldn’t have to add the sticky notes. She has 10 months!! That is tons of time! I’m getting married in 10 months and I haven’t even figured out my save-the-dates yet, LOL!
Post # 7
Lol, oh man. Maybe they are just super clueless? I personally think it’s silly to invite someone to your wedding that neither you (figuratively) nor your FI are comfortable enough to call and ask for their address..
Not worth getting offended by, but ha. Sticky notes. I LOVE sticky notes… But not on wedding invitations.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@jessicadarling: We would only have a few conflicting but now that no one can bring their SO’s I doubt they will be going. My other couisin has a husband and will have a new born at the time of their wedding so probably won’t want to be separted from their mother so early. Now I think the only guest going will be my Grandma.
Post # 9
Hahaha, we’re having a casual family reception after our intimate wedding, and my grandma insisted on inviting my elderly first cousin twice removed (seriously). She then suggested that I also invite ONE of this woman’s 5 sons to escort her, since she’s elderly and widowed. When I said I thought it would be weird to invite just one of the five brothers, she suggested I just pop a sticky note on the invite saying, “Feel free to bring one of your boys with you!”
Fortunately I have Weddingbee to steer me straight! 🙂
Post # 10
@Pixienickie: how bizarre- I have never heard of anything like this before!
Post # 11
How strange! I don’t even know what to say to this!!!
Post # 13
@Pixienickie: That’s unfortunate. :/ Some people are really disorganized.
Something similar happened when my cousin got married, but the situation was very different : her SO got a job in another country and if she wanted to follow with the kids, it would make the whole immigration process easier if they were married. So they had 3 months to plan from scratch. I was not living at home anymore, but my mom called me saying she received the invites and that even though only uncles and aunts were invited to the ceremony and dinner, they were passing the word around that for reception after dinner we were invited (me and my sister) as well as our SOs. I didn’t find it rude at all, and understood that they had to choose what was available left at the date they chose, and that they didn’t really have time to wait for countless RSVPs, so they sent a few to their main guests (family), but used mouth-to-ear for the evening party (cousins, friends, coworkers, etc.)
Post # 14
I have seen a newly engaged bride who is clueless like this. I’m also shocked in the “information” age they don’t take a *teeny* bit of initiative and google “invitations” before sending them to the printer. I’m wondering if she didn’t know until it was too late and the money had been paid? Still…horrible and awkward. No offence but this is the sort of thing people will chuckle about for years in the family.
Post # 15
@Caddyshack: Agreed. Even my grandparents google things (they call it “the google” and say things like “ask the google”).
This breach of etiquette could have so easily been avoided!
Post # 16
That’s way past clueless and into the realm of ridiculously rude.
As PP’s have said; in the age of ‘Google’, there is really no excuse for such poor etiquette.