Received a wedding invitation yesterday – OMG etiquette nightmare!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pixienickie:  Too many people obviously have never heard about Google. Even if their parents failed to teach them proper manners , the information is readily accessible online.

We see examples here on WeddingBee all the time.

Post # 4
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Pixienickie:  Omg. I was taking a sip of my water at the wrong moment reading this title.

Wowza. That is just so incredibly… wrong. Even before I joined this lovely forum I knew that that was a biiiig no-no! I can’t believe she actually used a post-it. That’s just comical.

Post # 5
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Pixienickie:  Do you think theres any chance they sent the invites out so early because they think they might have competition for guests at your wedding?

Either way, that is crazy early and crazy weird!

Post # 6
2657 posts
Sugar bee

Wow.  That is crazy.  What puzzles me most is why she didn’t just wait and redo the invites so that she wouldn’t have to add the sticky notes.  She has 10 months!!  That is tons of time!  I’m getting married in 10 months and I haven’t even figured out my save-the-dates yet, LOL!  

Post # 7
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Lol, oh man. Maybe they are just super clueless? I personally think it’s silly to invite someone to your wedding that neither you (figuratively) nor your FI are comfortable enough to call and ask for their address..

Not worth getting offended by, but ha. Sticky notes. I LOVE sticky notes… But not on wedding invitations. 

Post # 9
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Hahaha, we’re having a casual family reception after our intimate wedding, and my grandma insisted on inviting my elderly first cousin twice removed (seriously). She then suggested that I also invite ONE of this woman’s 5 sons to escort her, since she’s elderly and widowed. When I said I thought it would be weird to invite just one of the five brothers, she suggested I just pop a sticky note on the invite saying, “Feel free to bring one of your boys with you!”

Fortunately I have Weddingbee to steer me straight! 🙂

Post # 10
4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Pixienickie:  how bizarre- I have never heard of anything like this before!

Post # 12
2962 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

WOW… Just…. WOW!!!

Post # 13
2878 posts
Sugar bee

@Pixienickie:  That’s unfortunate. :/ Some people are really disorganized.

Something similar happened when my cousin got married, but the situation was very different : her SO got a job in another country and if she wanted to follow with the kids, it would make the whole immigration process easier if they were married. So they had 3 months to plan from scratch. I was not living at home anymore, but my mom called me saying she received the invites and that even though only uncles and aunts were invited to the ceremony and dinner, they were passing the word around that for reception after dinner we were invited (me and my sister) as well as our SOs. I didn’t find it rude at all, and understood that they had to choose what was available left at the date they chose, and that they didn’t really have time to wait for countless RSVPs, so they sent a few to their main guests (family), but used mouth-to-ear for the evening party (cousins, friends, coworkers, etc.)

Post # 14
236 posts
Helper bee

I have seen a newly engaged bride who is clueless like this.  I’m also shocked in the “information” age they don’t take a *teeny* bit of initiative and google “invitations” before sending them to the printer.  I’m wondering if she didn’t know until it was too late and the money had been paid? Still…horrible and awkward. No offence but this is the sort of thing people will chuckle about for years in the family. 

Post # 15
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Caddyshack:  Agreed. Even my grandparents google things (they call it “the google” and say things like “ask the google”).

This breach of etiquette could have so easily been avoided!

Post # 16
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

That’s way past clueless and into the realm of ridiculously rude.

As PP’s have said; in the age of ‘Google’, there is really no excuse for such poor etiquette.

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