(Closed) Received my first decline RSVP

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

yeah, she’s being a complete baby.  on a separate note, though, it might make you feel better to just let her emotional baggage go, ya know?  could be liberating.  I mean 10 years is a long time to hold onto that. 

Post # 4
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

also, she’s going to look like a total bitch to the rest of your family.  that’ll speak for itself.  i wouldn’t give her the satisfaction of being upset.  you shouldn’t have to beg people to want to be there for you (took me a VERY long time to realize this one myself).

Post # 5
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120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have a feeling my sister will be the same way…well she’s just step but still. She is all pissed at me because I “think I’m better than her” because I told her there is no way in heck that I would let my roommates smoke pot in front of my kids. HMM. Just shake it off girl! Don’t worry about her. If she can’t take the time to be there for you like she should then it’s not even worth thinking about.

Post # 7
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Newbee

Sorry to hear it. 🙁 Maybe she’ll reconsider, but I think you’re absolutely right not to give her any attention for her immature behavior. (And I can’t believe she kicked her own sister out of her BP, ugh.)

I used to babysit semi-professionally while performing in NYC, and I can tell you, it can be VERY hard to find a sitter for New Year’s Eve. I only babysat on NYE once, two years ago, and it was just about the most awful thing in the world knowing that my boyfriend was somewhere else and we couldn’t be together at midnight. Missed seeing my friends completely as well, as they’d headed home by the time I got out. I made double the normal pay ($45/hr after giving the agency its cut), but it wasn’t worth it.

That said, why not just have the kids come to the wedding and be there for as long as they can behave? Isn’t it better if she can make it to part of the day than none at all? Three- and six-year-olds can be quiet long enough for the ceremony, or she or someone else in the family can take them out of the room temporarily to be hyper and calm back down. It sounds like she’s just using the kids as an excuse.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Do you think that maybe she’s using this excuse to get you to invite her kids to the wedding?  That happened to a friend of mine…the groom’s sister said that she couldn’t find a babysitter (even though her mother in law was willing to do it), but she was really saying that thinking that there was no way that the groom would not just invite her son. 

Post # 9
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

From your SISTER?!?  That is ridiculous.  How hurtful- she is being so selfish.  This is the one time in your entire life that this is about YOU, and she is making you stress about her.  Water off a ducks back girl – invite some people you know will not bring any drama!!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

That is really hurtful. I’m sorry to hear that. And she’s family too – I really don’t think that going solo to a family wedding would be lonely. It’s not like you wouldn’t know anyone! That is really selfish of her. Is there anyone who can talk sense into her? 

Post # 11
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355 posts
Helper bee

Casually tell her that it’s unfortunate she won’t be able to make it, and you hope she has a nice NYE with her bf and children *cause clearly, she doesn’t have a baby sitter, so she’s not going out to party with the bf Wink*.  Nothing more.  It’s not worth the drama that she’s forcing upon you, don’t let her play head games with you!

Invite someone from the B list, knowing that they WANT to be there Laughing

Post # 13
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m so sorry she’s putting you through this, but no matter who’s there it’s still your wedding, and it will still be a blast!

You’re so not the only one with crazy families- I’ve got a bunch of hot messes I’m going to have to manage when it comes to that point. 🙂

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No, you’re not the only one with a crazy family. I think most familes are crazy in their own way. I’m sorry to hear your sister is being so ridiculous but I think you have the right idea to not let it ruin your wedding and move on with it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I can’t believe even still with 2 months left she can’t find a sitter. She’s obviously not trying very hard. I’m sorry she is being like this but that will be one less dramarific person to deal with on your big day.

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