(Closed) Received STD, but not invited?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If they got a save the date, they get an invite. No way arou d it. Hopefully, if they aren’t speaking to you, they will decline. But you have to invite them. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Someone once told me, the cost of STD’s is far mor expensive then just the paper and stamps.. It’s the cost of having to invite all the people you sent them too!

unfortunately I agree with pp, you have to invite them.. But the good news is that they will probably decline.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@liziwoods:  Unfortunately, there’s nothing that you can really do without making things worse. 🙁

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t agree with PPs.  There are plenty of reasons to not invite someone after they get an STD (oh lol at the acronym).  I don’t see anything wrong with it.  Obviously not sending an invite will not repair any friendship but if you are not looking to do that then you have absolutly no reason to pay for a dinner and drink for someone who will just ignore you. 

Hey, it may even make them talk to you and ask where their invite is!

Why on earth would you invite someone to your wedding who you don’t have a relationship with anymore?  Ridiculous.

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would still send an invite and hopefully they just decline.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Have you tried talking to them to see why they’re acting that way? I think you still need to send an invitation. If they’re acting so hostile towards you, they probably won’t come anyways, but it’s only going to make things worse if you don’t send them an invitation. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Can we please just call them save the dates?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I dunno… if someone was no longer speaking to me I would not invite them. I know that’s a major STD/invite etiquette faux pas, but if these people are actively going out of their way to not talk to you, they should have no interest in attending your wedding.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JLR1982:  what? take all the fun away and type more? never!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Atalanta:  LOL okaaaay *shuffles away*

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Eh, I’m normally pretty etiquette oriented but I would not send an invite to someone giving me the silent treatment.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@liziwoods:  Yeah that’s what I thought too.  If someone I didn’t like invited me to a wedding where all my friends were gonna be I’d go party on that person’s dime, why not? 

What’s the worst thing that can happen if you don’t invite them?  They won’t talk to you?

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ehhh if someone is rude enough to cut you off like that, then etiquette need not apply.

 

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