Receiving Line?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee

@amyb156:  We are going to do a receiving line, because quite frankly I want to eat and dance!   DONE!  LOL

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@amyb156:  We went to each table and I suggest you do the same. I hate receiving lines. Why should guests wait in line to talk to you? Also you’ve got to either have really short conversations, or make people wait in line a long time.

Another advantage of going table to table is you can talk to more of a group, so people who don’t know you well can still get a bit of your time, without having to talk to you.

But go around after dinner, not during. You need to eat!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@amyb156:  I didn’t do a receiving line, but I definitely would have if time wasn’t crunched for pictures right after the ceremony.

You’ll be happy you did one, trust me. Because then nobody could say they didn’t speak to you.

You can still always go around & talk to people during the reception obviously, but you won’t feel such an urge to do so.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

not doing one, it would cut into our photo time. we will just talk with everyone during the reception! We will be dancing with everyone as well as be able to go around to tables who are not dancing when we feel like taking a break. I don’t see it as being a big inconvenience.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Our ceremony and reception were at the same venue, and there really wasn’t an easy way to have a receiving line because of this. As a result, we did not have one. Our plan was to go around to each table after dinner instead. Unfortunately, due to issues with our timeline, we only ended up having an hour of our reception left after dinner, and we had to dance with our parents, cut our cake, and have family photos taken. Sadly, we ended up never having a chance to speak to or to interact with the vast majority of our guests. It was heartbreaking for me.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

If you are having a ton of people, receiving lines are rude in my opinion- since, as a good hostess, you want your guests to be comfortable and (relatively) entertained, making them stand in line to see you sucks. I’ve stood in line to visit with a bride and groom, and it took forever! If you spend only 10 seconds with each person (which is very very short), your receiving line will take more than 40 minutes at a 250 person wedding. Yuck!

 

I know you want to be able to enjoy your reception, so I say eat like everyone else, and do your visits in between dances. You can dance for a song and then visit for a song. you get the picture.

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m doing one! I don’t get why people are assuming they’re rude… Lol it’s a very common thing, not to mention has been somewhat of a tradition for years and years, and people have to exit the church anyway. (Assuming your recieving line is at the entrance/exit) and if you want them to grab their confetti or rice or whatever for your exit, then that’s a perfect set up for it. And from other weddings I’ve been to, the line moves pretty darn fast. It’s not like waiting in line for a ride at Disney world. 5-8 minutes max wait. People won’t be mad over that. And if they are, why the heck are they at your wedding?

 

the only reason I wouldn’t was if I was crunched for time for pictures. But otherwise, people are heading that way anyway. And the people you invited are there for you, the couple! And to get to see everyone and ram to everyone all at once, it’s a big accomplishment! 🙂 you can still socialize at the reception too, but just incase, it’s nice to know you didn’t leave anyone out.

 

but they’re not rude at all, imo.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I plan on doing one. But our guest list is fairly small – we invited 79 people – so a receiving line won’t take long. We plan to socialize at the reception, too, but a receiving line is nice just in case we somehow miss someone at the reception. And like @silkspectre94 mentioned, we’re doing a bubble exit, so it’s a good time for people to grab their bubbles and head outside 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @amyb156:  first and foremost, I see you are NEW to WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

I am an Encore Bride.

First Wedding (circa 1980) Receiving Lines were the norm.  We had one as soon as we got to our Reception Venue… then people made their way to the Cocktail Hour.

It is a bit old-fashioned nowadays.. BUT I will say that it works !!  There is no need to make it a HUGE affair (in the old days the WHOLE Wedding Party was in it).  I’d keep it to just B&G and both sets of Parents, as these are the “key players”

This time round…

Mr TTR & I Eloped, then after our Honeymoon we had a Back Home Reception.  We parked ourselves at the front door when people arrived and said “Hi & Welcomed them”… but in truth it accidently turned out to more of a case of “receiving” Wedding Presents… as almost no one came empty handed (as an Etiquette Snob… this was NEVER my intent)

Our party was 5 hours… and we never did make it around to see everyone “formally” for a chat at the party… just sort of casual “Hi’s” and hanging out on the Dance Floor etc.  So many people to see, and so many things going on… we were pulled in to many directions… and the time JUST FLEW !!

So if I had a choice… I think the best way was a more formal Receiving Line… do her early… get her done !!

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@waitingalongtime: Snap.

 @amyb156: We didn’t do one both well I couldn’t be bothered as I and I’m sure the guests just wanted to sit and eat.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My Mum thinks we should have one but I’ve told her no, I’ve been to weddings with them and I think they end up being dull for both the wedding party and the guests.  We intend to go round each table during the meal.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We aren’t doing one due to time crunch for photos after the ceremony (Catholic Church…have to be out before 4:30).  We are going to mingle with the guests during cocktail hour and then go table to table during dinner.  But if you want to do one, go for it!  It’s your day!!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We aren’t doing one due to time crunch for photos after the ceremony (Catholic Church…have to be out before 4:30).  We are going to mingle with the guests during cocktail hour and then go table to table during dinner.  But if you want to do one, go for it!  It’s your day!!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This one was discussed for a while with my fiance. Our priest and photographer was against it. 

But we really didn’t want to do one. As guests in previous weddings, we thought a receiving line would be annoying for the guests and most importantly, it was cutting into the photoshoot slot. The exchange between the couple and the guests becomes very repetitive for the couple.

We didn’t do a receiving line as we thought we would get to talk to our guests in the reception, walk the tables during dinner etc. But I ended up eating my dinner and didn’t really get out of our seats and we danced the night away. I regret missing to talk to my guests but at the same time no regret in skipping the receving line.

I blame missing talking to my guests because I didn’t sacrifice eating my dinner like most brides, I should’ve but I don’t know what was going through my head. If your schedule is tight, I would opt for skipping receiving line but remember to do your rounds during reception. Task someone close to remind you to do the rounds.

 

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