Post # 1
I just realized we have a Wedding Bee Wiki, and looked the receiving line situation up, but I think I need a new post for advice on my situation.
Now you should know that my fiances brother had 650 people at their
wedding and did a receiving line. I watched the dvd of it, it was mass
chaos. I mean, all those people, that long line, you just sitting
there, everyone kissing your cheeks … I decided right at that point,
along with my fiance who was watching too … NO RECEIVING LINE! Lol.
I find that the table visiting seems way better than the line.
I wonder how I should handle my situation? Any advice?
After the ceremony we both like the idea of leaving right away, not
staying after for anything at all. Just going right to the reception
venue, which is a hotel- that we’re staying at.
I figure I’ll touch up my mu, in case I cry, than we’ll go down for
our grand entrance. All of our guests will have a cocktails and hors
d’oeuvre in a different area and be led into the grand ballroom for the
reception etc. ….
P.S. the pictures of bride and groom will be taken before ceremony starts and any formal shots will be taken by a portrait photog. at the reception – after the ceremony.So not formal shots at church.
Post # 3
How many guests are you inviting? I know that a receiving line seems ilke a pain, but if it’s simialr to your BIL in that it’s a couple to a few hundred I strongly recommend one. Think about it. If you visit table-to-table then you need to spend 5-10 minutes at each one. If you have like 20 tables (200 ppl), that’s a minumun of an hour and forty minuts, and up to 3 hours for table visiting. In a receiving line no one spends more than like 10s talking to you.
Avoiding the chaos has everything to do with advance planning. For my sister’s we planned ahead so the receiving line came into the reception area from the cocktail area. There was no line for guests waiting to come in necessarily. They continued drinking/eating until there weren’t too many people trying to enter at once.
A friend of mine had about the same size reception as my sister (~350), and ceremony and reception were at the Roostertail in Detroit. I advised her to do a receiving line, but she told me she didn’t want to. However, I think at the v. last minute they realized that they’d spend the entire evening table-hopping if they didn’t do one or something…I’m not really sure except that one formed all of a sudden. Except, since they didn’t plan on this the line happened at the entrance to the building instead of the entrance to the banquet hall. People were stuck for half an hour or possibly more on the skinny little pier leating away from the ceremony site. I agree it was awful, but easily avoidable. (And for anyone considering doing one, let your Bridal Party off the hook. I was the only non-family Bridesmaid or Best Man…I knew almost *no one*. I’d much rather have spent that time trying to figure out ways to make guests more comfortable once they entered the hall or getting something together for the bride.)
Anyway, that’s just my 2 cents if you’re having a larger wedding.
Post # 4
We did the table hopping thing, and it wasn’t that bad. Granted we only had 8 tables, but we moved through them pretty quickly (less than 5 minutes per table). After the cocktail hour, we had the grand entrance, the first dance, and then first course was served. We got all our course at the same time, so by the time everyone else started getting their second course, we got up to start the tables. Our photographers also followed us around and took a picture of us with every table. We were done with the last table just as they were finishing their second course.
I do agree with fizicsgirl, though, that if your wedding is huge a receiving line will definitely be the way to go. To make it faster and easier, have only the bride and groom in the receiving line and don’t stop! If you can have a parent or the best man/MOH moving things along, that’s best. If anyone talks for more than a couple seconds, you can hand them off saying, "BM/MOH here is going to give you more info on the reception. Can’t wait to see you there!" It is a pain, but more manageable this way.
Post # 5
My husband and I released each row from the church and greeted people that way. It was awesome. Everyone loved it, and it took a fraction of the time a receiving line would have for 2 reasons- 1, the guests only had to talk to the bride and groom, and 2, people didn’t try to hold us up in conversation since they could see the crowd of rows behind them.
Post # 6
We want to have 150 guests but we’ll probably end up inviting 175! Thank god. I want a small, more intimate wedding, and the parents cooperated.
We’ll have 8 people per round table, I think, and so there will be 19 tables… again, this is just random thinking, lol. Not anything that is set as of yet.
I actually never thought of having a receiving line that ushers guests into the main reception area. I like that. We could set it up so that guests are leaving the cocktail hour area and being led into the main reception area.
How long would it take to visit with 150- 175 people? That number includes people we invited as "and guest".