Post # 1
My Fi and I are getting married on Saturday, and we have a rather unconventional problem. We have 140 coming for everything, and have invited my FI’s entire church to the ceremony (they kindly threw us a shower last week, so we felt we should extend an invitation). Unfortunately, we are in a bit of a pickle with whether to do a receiving line or not. We obviously cannot greet everyone at our reception, but we also do not want to spend over an hour of our photography time greeting people (plus, as a guest, who the heck wants to wait in that long line???). We only have two hours between the ceremony and reception<br /><br />Is there a tactful way to only have a receiving line (and it would just be the two of us) for the people who will not be joining us for the reception? We could just hope for a small turnout from the church members, but my FI has literally grown up in this country church, and I think quite a few people are planning on attending.<br /><br />Thank you in advance!!
Post # 2
We had this problem too. We decided that since we will be served food first at the reception, that will give us time to eat and then walk around to each of the tables are greet people, so that’s our plan! Rather than doing a line where people might stay and talk to us forever, we can move from table to table as quickly as we need to. We do have some people not coming to the recpetion that will be at the ceremony, and unfortunately we won’t get a chance to say hi to them- but thats just the way it goes.
Post # 3
So my fiance’s church threw us a shower, which was EXTREMELY kind of them, and we extended an invitation to the entire church to attend our ceremony. I know this is unconventional, but people were asking if they could come to our ceremony.. Now we were not planning on having a receiving line (as a guest we hate them, and we are having 140 to the reception plus whomever comes to the ceremony on top of that). Now we kind of feel like we should have one, but we do not want to spend an hour in a receiving line. Is there a tactful way to extend an invitation to the receiving line for those who are only attending the ceremony, while letting the others know that we will catch up with them at the reception? We would only have the two of us in the receiving line
we have a double aisle church, so dismissing row by row would be a logistical mess
Post # 2
I don’t think there is any tactful way of doing that. I’d just skip the formal recieving ling all together.
Post # 3
jen_vdm: Instead of a receiving line, just make sure you spend plenty of time at the church mingling and talking to guests.
Our situation was kind of similar to yours and that’s what we did. Like you I hate receiving lines. But given enough time at the church, everyone who wants to greet you personally will get a chance. I can’t remember exactly how long we were at the church after exiting the ceremony, maybe 20-30 minutes?
Post # 4
aussiemum1248: That’s a great compromise. Thank you for that. I just didn’t want people to feel like we were ignoring them/inappreciative of their coming out, but also didn’t want to be standing for over an hour (and having people wait for that long).
Post # 5
What we decided to do is just hold the doors open for our guests as they leave the Sanctuary. Our parents and bridal party will be in other areas (hopefully distracting some of the guests as well). That way we can say hi to everyone, but people can’t linger too long or they will block the door and make all the other guests mad. Plus that way, we really don’t look planted, we are simply just being polite. It is basically an informal mingling like others have said.
At my friend’s wedding, the bride and groom came back in the church after and dismissed rows, giving each guest a hug as they left. It was cute, but they only had about 60 guests. 30 hugs per person is doable. We will have around 160… and that is just a lot of hugging. Something that works better for a smaller wedding.