- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I’m not sure if I’d like to have a Catholic wedding or not and could use Catholic feedback on the matter.
I’m a cradle Catholic that got lured away from the church as a teenager due to unfortunate events occuring at my church. Over the past 10 years, I’ve attended various Protestant Christian churches (mostly following the “non-denominational” style of worship). Six months ago, I moved practically next door to a Catholic church. I decided to give Catholicism a try again as an adult and have had mostly positive results. I like the priests and the community surrounding this church.
My SO (soon to be FI) was raised Southern Baptist and has never been baptised. He and I regularly attended a methodist church together until I began going to the catholic church. He has joined me for mass on most sundays. He works for a Catholic organization and has always found Catholicism fascinating. He told me that if I was 100% serious about going back Catholic and staying Catholic, he would go through RCIA.
However, I’m still not sure how I feel about Catholicism as a whole. My problem is that I have the belief that “as long as the church is Trinity centered, I’ll worship there”. So one week, I’m chanting latin at mass, the next week, I’m at a small Protestant service in a little house in the woods. On paper, that sounds great, but there are notable differences in catholicism that are important (eucharist, saints, Mary) that I can’t make my mind up about.
I have a dear friend who is a non-denominational pastor that would be happy to marry us in his church (or in the woods, or whatever venue we desired). But yet, because my entire family is catholic, I’ve been in and witnessed many beautiful sacramental marriages in my life and, in a way, yearn for that. But I worry that I’m lying in my vows if I can’t 100% commit to the church and commit upfront to raising my children there.
I asked this here in the Catholic board because I’d like catholic perspectives on this. I know I’m not engaged yet, but if the timeline happens as quickly as I suspect it will, the church decision will need to be made pretty quickly.
- For someone who has recently come back to the church but isn’t 100% commited, is a Catholic wedding a bad idea?
- Is it possible to have a Catholic wedding with participation from our Protestant pastor friend?
- What options do we have if soon-to-be FI isn’t baptised? I know we can’t do a full mass, which is fine, but then how does the church view the marriage?