Post # 1
I am recently engaged 4 days now and I knew exactly what I wanted for my wedding I had done tons of research my colors, center peices, even picked a dress, bought shoes, jewelry and selected potential venues.
After I got that ring FINALY and so excited I am really happy but in a wierd way I feel like I am dreaming, I have ceased planning I pinch myself I am I really engaged? I cant seem to plan I think I need time for the engagement to sink in. I wanted to find out from other bee’s if this happened to them this adjustment stage. My friend said that happened to her, I dont even have a date in Mind this feels surreal.
Post # 3
I think everyone probably experiences this to some degree. Relax, let it sink in – you don’t have to pick a date right this second! I don’t even remember when we picked ours; I think it was months later!
Post # 4
I agree with the PP – enjoy this engagement time. It’s like the calm before the storm, lol. It’s going to get busy, expensive and go by super quickly! Try to take it all in.. enjoy your dreamlike euphoria! 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
It’s okay to just sit back and enjoy being engaged. Even if you were in mega planning mode prior to the engagement, there’s nothing to stop you from taking a break to just soak it all in. Now if you come back 6 months from now telling us that you STILL don’t want to make a plan, then we’ll worry. LOL
Post # 6
It’s totally normal. Relax and enjoy the feeling – don’t feel like you have to rush ahead with planning.
Post # 7
@sevenlove: I felt like that for a while. I still feel a little like that. It goes away, promise!
Post # 8
We waited about 3 weeks before even starting to discuss anything. I wanted to enjoy just being engaged with nothing else. People kept asking our plans and thought we were crazy, but I loved it!
Post # 9
@MissComicBook: Thank you for the reassurance that this is totally normal FI and I dont discuss wedding stuff still announcing to friends and family I just want to enjoy being engaged its wonderful.
Post # 10
Thank you Ladies, I will just kick back and enjoy to be engaged I need to clear my mind and enjoy this time in me and FI’s life.
Post # 11
@sevenlove: I didn’t do much the first few weeks and I just have been going really, really slow. Doing little things here and there. I think what reality is and how I imagined in my head are so different that it’s taken me some time. For some reason I thought I would be constantly busy, doing wedding 24-7. Nope! I have plenty of time to look for a job, start a new hobby and just take things easy.
I have gotten some things knocked out but there is still plenty other things to decide and I’m enjoying it all.
You are on the verge of a huge life change. It’s going to be surreal for a bit. I say it’s healthy! Congratulations!
Post # 12
I had a complete melt down freak out…. but it wasn’t until 5 months after our engagement.. and my melt down lasted for about 2 months! Lost weight, couldn’t eat or sleep, freaking out! Marriage is a HUGE commitment and even though I had known for a long time that this was the man for me and had been super excited, it’s still scary. There’s no guarantees in life and I wanted to have CERTAINTY that we’ll be married forever and live happily ever after etc etc. Anyways, You don’t sound as extreme as me, but if it does get bad, you should check into Sheryl Paul and conscious transitions… she specializes in anxiety around these big transitions in life. Helped me a lot. I feel pretty much all normal again now