(Closed) Recently engaged and feeling weird, anxious …

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think everyone probably experiences this to some degree. Relax, let it sink in – you don’t have to pick a date right this second! I don’t even remember when we picked ours; I think it was months later! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with the PP – enjoy this engagement time. It’s like the calm before the storm, lol. It’s going to get busy, expensive and go by super quickly! Try to take it all in.. enjoy your dreamlike euphoria! 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It’s okay to just sit back and enjoy being engaged. Even if you were in mega planning mode prior to the engagement, there’s nothing to stop you from taking a break to just soak it all in. Now if you come back 6 months from now telling us that you STILL don’t want to make a plan, then we’ll worry. LOL

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s totally normal. Relax and enjoy the feeling – don’t feel like you have to rush ahead with planning.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@sevenlove:  I felt like that for a while. I still feel a little like that. It goes away, promise!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We waited about 3 weeks before even starting to discuss anything.  I wanted to enjoy just being engaged with nothing else.  People kept asking our plans and thought we were crazy, but I loved it!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sevenlove:  I didn’t do much the first few weeks and I just have been going really, really slow. Doing little things here and there. I think what reality is and how I imagined in my head are so different that it’s taken me some time. For some reason I thought I would be constantly busy, doing wedding 24-7. Nope! I have plenty of time to look for a job, start a new hobby and just take things easy.

 

I have gotten some things knocked out but there is still plenty other things to decide and I’m enjoying it all.

 

You are on the verge of a huge life change. It’s going to be surreal for a bit. I say it’s healthy! Congratulations!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I had a complete melt down freak out…. but it wasn’t until 5 months after our engagement.. and my melt down lasted for about 2 months!  Lost weight, couldn’t eat or sleep, freaking out!  Marriage is a HUGE commitment and even though I had known for a long time that this was the man for me and had been super excited, it’s still scary.  There’s no guarantees in life and I wanted to have CERTAINTY that we’ll be married forever and live happily ever after etc etc.  Anyways, You don’t sound as extreme as me, but if it does get bad, you should check into Sheryl Paul and conscious transitions… she specializes in anxiety around these big transitions in life.  Helped me a lot.  I feel pretty much all normal again now

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