Recently Engaged!! Any Bee's Here Prefer A Band Over An E-Ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think your ring is beautiful! But I understand because I’m also a no-frills person myself. My e-ring is a simple solitaire. When I was engaged I was a grad student and I didn’t wear my ring on the days I worked in the lab because it was too much of a hassle with gloves and washing my hands a lot. It was no big deal and everyone knew I was still engaged. I didn’t feel right getting a stand-in that wasn’t my e-ring. Now that I’m married and have a messy toddler, 95% of the time I just wear my wedding band, which is plain gold with no stones.

Could you talk to your FI about exchanging for a different ring? If you feel like this ring doesn’t suit your style or personality, I’m sure he would want you to have something that you would want to wear all the time.

Post # 3
8589 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Im a girly girl and love having my sparkly engagement ring and wedding sister however is like you and isnt a jewelry person at all..shes not married yet but she is engaged..her engagement ring is actually meant to be a wedding band..its got white and champagne diamonds..its got the infinity symbol all around in the white diamonds and in the center of each loop theres a  marques shaped champagne diamond..this ring is seriously to die for..I wish I had a picture!!

Post # 4
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My aunt has a band with diamonds as her engagement ring and a plain band as her wedding band. Very pretty and simple


Post # 5
3524 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I am a stay at home mom, so I get this…  I wear a band or nothing a lot of the time at home.  But I also love having a big rock on my finger!!!  So I wear my ering as much as I can, because I really do love it.

Post # 6
2066 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

Just wear the beautiful ring – and wear it all the time.  Get as much pleasure as you can from it.  That’s what it is for.  Stop agonising and just enjoy being engaged.

Or quickly ask your FI to exchange it for something more modest and use the extra money for an extra special honeymoon or something equally romantic.  

If you simply don’t wear it don’t assume your FI / future husband won’t notice.  He’ll be hurt so you need to make a decision fast.

Post # 7
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

I have a band style engagement ring.  For my wedding band, we added a 1mm jacket.  My stones are channel set, so they don’t snag on anything.

Post # 9
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Getting a simpler ring sounds like a very practical idea for your lifestyle. Your engagement ring is gorgeous, so maybe you could wear it when you go out on dates with your fiancé or when you’re not working. Have you spoken to your fiancé about it? I think if you have the $ why not? One of my friends had a band instead of your classic ring and it works perfect for her. 

Post # 10
14 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

I completely understand! Being an active girl that never wore rings, I always thought I would go for a diamond band as an engagement ring and a thin, plain band for my wedding ring.  Before my husband proposed, he asked me what type of ring I would like and I considered many of the wedding bands from Brilliant Earth…However, after I found out he had spent three months designing an engagement ring, I happily accepted the “rock” and picked one of the bands below as my wedding band.  I’ve uploaded a couple of the rings I considered.  I hope the research for my own engagement band can be of some help to you! 


Post # 11
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

csutter1:  First of all, congratulations on your engagement!

I am doing exactly what you’re talking about! I work in science, so I am putting on and taking off gloves all day, I don’t normally wear much jewelry, and have simple tastes. We had a custom band designed for me that I have been wearing as my engagement ring. After we get married (next month!) I will continue to wear it as my wedding ring. I only wanted one ring, so this is perfect for me. I wear it every day, and it never gets in my way. I have friends at work who don’t wear their e-rings b/c they catch on gloves, so I’m happy I got something that fits my style and my lifestyle.



Post # 12
35 posts

I love looking at all the beautiful rings out there – but personally, I am not one to wear much jewelry. I don’t feel comfortable with it on… I am recently engaged and my engagement ring is actually a wedding/anniversary band. It has round diamonds in a channel set band and I love it! Simple, yet still has diamonds. I am leaning towards a plain band for my wedding band… simple but classy, imo.

Post # 13
7 posts

Does anyone have a photo of their band e-ring with a wedding band? I think if I get a band for my e-ring (probably half-eternity) I’d like a second wedding band (probably without stones). Has anyone done this and do you have pictures?

Post # 14
5482 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Mrs.N:  not my original wedding set but here’s a stack I did one day for fun 🙂

Post # 15
1574 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can take a photo (I just got a new lap top so absolutely nada saved on here) but I have a tanzanite ring I wear sometimes in place of my engagement band. More often, I wear just my wedding band. My ring isn’t huge (1.5 carats) but there are situations in which I feel uncomfortable wearing it so I do just wedding band or tanzanite + wedding band. I almost always have something on that hand (one exception in the last year was during a hospitalization). 

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