Post # 1
As the title suggests, I’m newly engaged!! YAY! However, my new e-ring is a doozy! I love the ring dearly but I’m not one for big jewelry and this ring would definitely qualify as BIG (for myself anyway). When I was a ‘waiting bee’ the idea of having a rock on my finger was exciting and almost fantastical, but now that it’s happened, it is just not realisitc.
So, I was thinking, maybe I could find a lovely band that I could wear now in place of the engagement ring and then just continue to wear after we get married? Or perhaps find an additonal tiny band to add on as my wedding band when we get married?
Have any of Bees on here gone this route? Have you perhaps felt a big rock just didn’t suit your personality or your lifestyle and that a band was more up your alley?
If you have a cool or unique ring or wedding band photo you’d like to share with me please do! I’d love to get some ideas on what I could do in lieu of my traditional engagement ring.
(Here’s a picture of my current engagement ring in case any of you were curious–sorry my hands were so disgusting!!)
Post # 2
I think your ring is beautiful! But I understand because I’m also a no-frills person myself. My e-ring is a simple solitaire. When I was engaged I was a grad student and I didn’t wear my ring on the days I worked in the lab because it was too much of a hassle with gloves and washing my hands a lot. It was no big deal and everyone knew I was still engaged. I didn’t feel right getting a stand-in that wasn’t my e-ring. Now that I’m married and have a messy toddler, 95% of the time I just wear my wedding band, which is plain gold with no stones.
Could you talk to your FI about exchanging for a different ring? If you feel like this ring doesn’t suit your style or personality, I’m sure he would want you to have something that you would want to wear all the time.
Post # 3
Im a girly girl and love having my sparkly engagement ring and wedding band..my sister however is like you and isnt a jewelry person at all..shes not married yet but she is engaged..her engagement ring is actually meant to be a wedding band..its got white and champagne diamonds..its got the infinity symbol all around in the white diamonds and in the center of each loop theres a marques shaped champagne diamond..this ring is seriously to die for..I wish I had a picture!!
Post # 4
My aunt has a band with diamonds as her engagement ring and a plain band as her wedding band. Very pretty and simple
Post # 5
I am a stay at home mom, so I get this… I wear a band or nothing a lot of the time at home. But I also love having a big rock on my finger!!! So I wear my ering as much as I can, because I really do love it.
Post # 6
Just wear the beautiful ring – and wear it all the time. Get as much pleasure as you can from it. That’s what it is for. Stop agonising and just enjoy being engaged.
Or quickly ask your FI to exchange it for something more modest and use the extra money for an extra special honeymoon or something equally romantic.
If you simply don’t wear it don’t assume your FI / future husband won’t notice. He’ll be hurt so you need to make a decision fast.
Post # 7
I have a band style engagement ring. For my wedding band, we added a 1mm jacket. My stones are channel set, so they don’t snag on anything.
Post # 8
Let me clarify, I am currently wearing the ring! I just find it very bulky! Plus I’m a Zoology major so I spend a great deal of time dissecting organisms and pulling lab gloves on and off. With a ring like mine, it’s not necessarily the easiest task, but I certainly never take the ring off simply because I don’t think it fits my style perfectly. I understand the significance of the ring and what it stands for so I do not intend to take and leave the ring off until my FI and I are on the same page about how I feel and what we should do to handle the situation.
Post # 9
Getting a simpler ring sounds like a very practical idea for your lifestyle. Your engagement ring is gorgeous, so maybe you could wear it when you go out on dates with your fiancé or when you’re not working. Have you spoken to your fiancé about it? I think if you have the $ why not? One of my friends had a band instead of your classic ring and it works perfect for her.
Post # 10
I completely understand! Being an active girl that never wore rings, I always thought I would go for a diamond band as an engagement ring and a thin, plain band for my wedding ring. Before my husband proposed, he asked me what type of ring I would like and I considered many of the wedding bands from Brilliant Earth…However, after I found out he had spent three months designing an engagement ring, I happily accepted the “rock” and picked one of the bands below as my wedding band. I’ve uploaded a couple of the rings I considered. I hope the research for my own engagement band can be of some help to you!
Post # 11
csutter1: First of all, congratulations on your engagement!
I am doing exactly what you’re talking about! I work in science, so I am putting on and taking off gloves all day, I don’t normally wear much jewelry, and have simple tastes. We had a custom band designed for me that I have been wearing as my engagement ring. After we get married (next month!) I will continue to wear it as my wedding ring. I only wanted one ring, so this is perfect for me. I wear it every day, and it never gets in my way. I have friends at work who don’t wear their e-rings b/c they catch on gloves, so I’m happy I got something that fits my style and my lifestyle.
Post # 12
I love looking at all the beautiful rings out there – but personally, I am not one to wear much jewelry. I don’t feel comfortable with it on… I am recently engaged and my engagement ring is actually a wedding/anniversary band. It has round diamonds in a channel set band and I love it! Simple, yet still has diamonds. I am leaning towards a plain band for my wedding band… simple but classy, imo.
Post # 13
Does anyone have a photo of their band e-ring with a wedding band? I think if I get a band for my e-ring (probably half-eternity) I’d like a second wedding band (probably without stones). Has anyone done this and do you have pictures?
Post # 14
Mrs.N: not my original wedding set but here’s a stack I did one day for fun 🙂
Post # 15
I can take a photo (I just got a new lap top so absolutely nada saved on here) but I have a tanzanite ring I wear sometimes in place of my engagement band. More often, I wear just my wedding band. My ring isn’t huge (1.5 carats) but there are situations in which I feel uncomfortable wearing it so I do just wedding band or tanzanite + wedding band. I almost always have something on that hand (one exception in the last year was during a hospitalization).