Post # 1
Okay, I never thought this would happen so soon, but finally one of my friends is engaged and getting married, YAY! We’ve been friends for 21 years so it is an exciting time, she was in my wedding and we’ve always shared a lot of memories.
SO, with that being said, of course I asked the basics, like when, where all of that. And she mentioned the cost. Now, her mom is close with mine and so I’ve heard from my mom how her mother is feeling and of course I get the excitement from my friend. Her mom is STRESSED due to what is costs for a wedding in our area. She told my mom that she has no clue how they are going to make this work. So, me knowing that I’ve been doing my best to offer up any sort of things I’ve found or even leftover decorations, paper for invites, stamps, that I can to her.
She keeps turning me down. Her response when I told her I had about 50 stamps just laying around was, “Oh, I want to pick out my own, so that’s okay” REALLY?!
I know maybe I shouldn’t be so concerned but because I know her mom is freaking out, I just want to help in whatever way I can. Thoughts?
Post # 2
I don’t know that there’s anything you can really do. I think her mom needs to sit her down and explain to her how she’s feeling financially strapped/stressed– otherwise thise girl will be none the wiser. If she only knew what her mother is feeling– ot the possibility that the cost might come back to her if her mom can’t afford it, she might think twice about those stamps.
Those are the type of things that– I could have at least used for RSVPS or something…right? I mean…wedding stamps, or picture stamps. YES! They are adoreable, and it everyone had endless pits of money, we’d all have the most beautiful stamps in town. But seriously? Yes, I might notice a cool stamp, but I’m not going to frown on a not-so-cool stamp.
But since it’s not your place to tell her– just wait til her mom talks to her. Then go ahead and offer what you can.
Post # 3
She probably feels like you think she’s some sort of charity case! Noone likes to feel like they’re having your leftovers or a budget wedding.
<br />I’d leave her alone till she asks for help.
Post # 4
mrscross1020: If she is a close friend, she doesn’t likely want your wedding. She wants her wedding. If that means she and her FI have to work and save up for it, or they have a small wedding that they can afford, so be it.
I suggest you back off worrying about her finances, and let her worry about how they are going to pay for the wedding.