Post # 1
Hello all! I am newly engaged (just under 2 weeks) and this site was recommended to me by a friend. Everything is still in the early planning stages, but wanted to give some of the details that we have hammered out.
We won’t be having a wedding party. I have 2 daughters from a previous relationship, ages at the time of the wedding will be 9 and 14, and they will be incorporated into the ceremony. I have a nephew and my fiance has a niece and nephew that we also plan to have be a part of the wedding.
We are getting married June 7, 2014 and the reception will be in my parents backyard. They have a couple of acres and it will cut down on cost. This will not be a formal reception by any means, in fact, I am trying to find a way to keep it classy, yet fun. There is a tradition in our family of having a pig roast every few years, well our reception will be a pig roast. There is enough room to rent a dance floor and we will have a DJ. One idea that I saw and really liked is to get some old, mismatched furniture and place it throughout the yard so there are “lounge areas” for people to sit at. Another idea is having a volleyball net, bocci ball, and different outdoor activities. I want to have an area for kids where they will each get a goody bag to entertain them.
My issues are as follows – how do I word the invites so that people know it is okay to dress casual to the wedding? And if people want to dress up for the wedding and change, there will be room for that as well.
We will provide water/keg beer/pop. Is it tacky to say that you can also BYOB?
Any ideas how to keep this classier and not end up being a “ghetto red neck” party?
I want my friends and family to have fun!! It would be nice to end the night with a bonfire. My perfect reception would be one in which people don’t realize how late it is and are still having fun, rather than looking at their watches, wondering when they can leave.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@emviamama: This sounds awesome! And quite similar in style to my wedding, which was epically fun 🙂
Re: BYOB, I think you should just spread the word rather than say it explicitly on invites or a wedding website to avoid the dreaded tackiness. We did that and a few friends brought whiskey – sweet!
Have you thought about providing at least some wine? You can get quite good wine in a box for cheap, and a lot of people much prefer that to beer… Wine is a little harder to BYOB than a flask, too.
I think the style / dress / etc questions would be addressed really well on a wedding website. You can get one for free and they’re really easy to set up. We did one through weddingwire.com. Also, if you send a fairly casual looking invitation (no embossed paper, super formal language, etc) and mention it’s a backyard reception, I think that will convey the formality level.
Don’t forget about having to rent tables, chairs, linens, a tent, bathrooms, lighting, etc. It is a fair bit of extra work to do an outdoor backyard event vs a venue where everything is provided. Hopefully you have a team of family and friends to recruit – that definitely saved us.
Post # 4
I did the same thing. We had our wedding at my dad’s house outside. We had a pig roast, built a dance floor, and had Cornhole/benbag games and a bonfire at night. I used nice invitations to show it was more than a pig roast, but noted on our website not to wear heels because of the grass. It turned out beautifully. People wore what they wanted, but it was still classy and had a real wedding feel, not a typical ‘redneck’ pigroast like my family often has. I also used real dishes, clear glass ones that look like crystal (from the dollar store) to class it up so it felt like a wedding. You can message me if you want to see more pics or have questions. I don’t want to post the pro pics on the site, they are much better than the ones below though.
As people arrived at reception:
Ceremony site before chairs were addeed:
Post # 5
@lolot: I hadn’t thought about wine, but I probably should have one. As you said, it is hard to BYOB wine. My parents used to buy estates and do flea markets, so we are lucky to have tables and chairs. Their house has 3 bathrooms, but we will probably need to rent at least one facility.
I am so blessed to have people coming out of the woodwork to help! I was engaged for one day and both aunts were already planning. I also have a fiance who wants to be very involved in all things wedding. Get so excited every time I think about it!
Thanks so much for the good ideas!
Post # 6
@abax: I hadn’t even thought about dishes – I am glad you mentioned that!
The table looks great. I am happy to see a couple people taking the casual route for the reception.
Post # 7
I am a fan of putting that kind of information (ie, casual dress, BYOB) on a WEDDING WEBSITE. There are plenty of free hosting sites out there.
We, too, wanted people to be comfortable, so in our website we described the area and let them know they could even wear hiking boots if they wanted (ceremony was in a rugged area). Most showed up in business casual/summer dresses and comfy shoes. We also did not have attendants.
At the reception before dinner/dancing, we had some lawn games set up and put a smattering of chairs together in a couple different areas, then spread out a few tall cocktail tables so people could gather around while eating appetizers.
It worked out beautifully, and everyone was so relaxed and had fun!