- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
This is going to be a long post….
My friend was one of my bridesmaids and my sisters were Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid.
I recently had my wedding and we planned most of it ourselves because all my family and friends including my bridal party were coming from my hometown. I didn’t mind handling it myself with my financee.
My financee’s cousin’s gf threw me a bridal shower because she felt bad that I wasn’t getting one and it was with his side of the family it was very lovely and thoughtful and I really appreciated it. My sisters planned a surprise spa day for me and that was great and my financee kidnapped me and drove me to my hometown for this.
I am the Maid/Matron of Honor for my friend’s wedding (who was my bridesmaid), she doesn’t have a bridal party, just me….
Her wedding is in our hometown which is 6 hours away and I have no help from anyone including her financee. He contacted me about a month before my wedding and then again a week before my wedding to ask me how the planning was going for her bridal shower!?!?
Well they hadn’t firmed up their guest list at that time so I kept explaining to him that I couldn’t invite people who were not no their list and that I needed that from him. Well fast track to last week, I finally called him up to tell him that I need this and he said he would give me what he had. Well he gave me the guest list but with no address, phone number or email!?!?!?!. I called him again to explain and he said he would have it ready for me this weekend…. *SIGH*
Her cousin contacted me asking if I would throw her a shower and if not the family would, I called her up saying I was but I would need help finding a venue, as I started to talk to her, I started to realize that they weren’t really going to help, just to give some advice as she started making excuses for her and her family about helping such as her older sister living in the suburbs of their town.
Uh hello….I’m planning this from another province…..
So now I’m stuck, I just got married, I have to organize this bridal shower by myself from Out of Town and pay for it all on my own with their guest list of about 50 people.
I have no venue and I asked her cousin and her financee if they could ask family if they could lend a place considering her cousin said that for the older family they would prefer someone’s house instead of a restaurant but they didn’t seem too eager to look or ask, they just said they didn’t know.
I really don’t want to ask my friend for these details if I can avoid it but I don’t know what else to do.
On top of it, I’m trying to get over the fact that she said she would pay for my dress although I told her it was ok and then when it came time for me to order it she paused and said that she would go half on it instead.
Truthfully I’m not upset about that but I would have preferred if she was more upfront with it because we just paid for my own wedding with no help from anyone.
I let them pick out their own dresses so they could chose how much it would cost since I paid for their hair and makeup.
I asked her before I was going to order the dress if she was ok with it and she said yes, because she changed her mind just as I was ordering the dress, I decided to get another dress that was cheaper in case she would change her mind again and not pay for it at all.
I would like to have a nice shower for her but feeling quite overwhelmed with this responsibility and feeling like everyone has been so inconsiderate.
Did anyone else encounter any issues like this? Any advice? How did you handle it?