Post # 1
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My husband and I were married Feb 20th, he is in the army and was about to deploy to Iraq. It was just the two of us and it was in another state so none of our family or friends could attend. We want to have a very casual outdoor reception this summer, about a month after he returns. I wanted some advice on how to word the invitations, confusing since will have been married over a year by then. Also what sort of events should I include in the reception, is it still ok to have the traditional cake cutting, first dance, bouquet toss, etc.? I want to keep it relaxed so I’m not sure what to include. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
Post # 3
I think this is a great idea. Especially since he had to go to Iraq. People might just enjoy the chance to see you together. You could do a vow renewal in front of your friends and family and set the tone with inviations and wording. I can look up some wording options if you’d like.
Post # 4
I know 2 couples, personally, who held receptions after being married for quite some length of time. 1 couple kept it a secret that they were already legally wed, and treated it as a regular wedding. The other couple, I think most people knew they were already married. It’s been years, so it’s hard to recall, but I’m pretty sure their invite was casually worded, along the lines of "please celebrate our wedding with us" or something like that. But, they do a lot of the formal elements — she wore a fancy white wedding gown, and I can’t really remember, but I think they did a cake, and I think a first dance too.
If most people know your situation, that he needed to go to Iraq, I’m sure they will just be happy you guys get to have a fun wedding celebration with everyone and that they get the chance to celebrate with you. I think it’s up to you — if you want to have a pretty, white dress, go ahead! Cake? Sure! Bouquet toss? Why not?! I think the one thing people would take exception to is if they felt you were "gift fishing" if they’d already given you something, so if you HAVE received gifts, maybe you should include a line about "no gifts, please."
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice! I think I just needed someone I don’t know to give me the go ahead. LOL I went and tried on some dresses today!!