Post # 1
My FI and I have both been married before, and have children. I am still young (30) so I still wanted to do a typicsl ceremony where I walk down an aisle, etc. we are having this at our home, and only inviting immediate family. (Less than 20 people) we aren’t planning on dancing, garter toss, or anything like that for “reception.” So my question is, is serving dinner a MUST? Can we simply have a dessert buffet and leave it at that? Thoughts?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
If you do it later in the evening (7?) I think this would be fine. You cannot, however, expect people to skip dinner altogether.
Post # 4
@MrsRoquoe: You can serve any type of refreshment you like as long as the ceremony and reception do not take place over the hours that anyone would be expecting a meal.
You can also alert your guests by the wording you use on your invitations, e.g.
dessert buffet to follow
Post # 5
@MrsRoquoe: It depends how long people will be there, and at what time. Just a matter of whether it’s a reasonable lengt of time, and time of day, not to feed your guests. If they’re there from 11:00 am to 2:00 pm, you have to give them lunch. If they’re there frm 2 pm to 4pm, I don’t see any reason you have to provide a meal.
It sunds like all of these people are somewhat involved, or in the loop, on the planning? If you don’t give them any information ahead of time, anythiig iin the evening, before 9, they’ll probably assume they’re getting dinner. Since it’s just family, you can probably let them know, tactfully, to eat before they come.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You just need to put it at an appropriate time and make sure that your invitation doesn’t set the wrong expectations.
Post # 7
We aren’t serving food after our wedding…only a s’mores bar, beverages, and a bonfire. Our ceremony is going to start around 7pm. I think as long as you do it late enough it is fine. As long as people can eat before they come to your house
Post # 8
I would also definitely make sure it is noted on your invite that there is only going to be dessert
Post # 9
@MrsRoquoe: i think that would be rude if i was expected to eat beforehand and possiblly in a dress.
Post # 10
LincsMama is right, and I kind of brain cramped – you can totally just put that info on the invitation. Just indicate what will be served, rather than what won’t. But you could probably have figured that out on your own. I’m rambly today.
Post # 11
Yum, dessert buffet! As long as your wedding isn’t at 4:30 and your reception isn’t from 5-7, I think a dessert reception would be lovely!
Post # 12
Thank you everyone. Haven’t decided whether we will do dinner or not, just wanted to know if it would be “rude” not to. Will way both options and talk to family. Thanks 🙂