Post # 1
Hi Everyone! I need some help!
So we’re having a destination wedding (!!!!) and we’re considering having a reception when we get back, so that everyone that cant come to the wedding can at least celebrate with us at a reception. We’re thinking 150 people, at a venue close to home. BUT, I just have a feeling it will be awkward. do I wear my wedding dress again? Would we do our first dance again? It just seems like a reception, two weeks after the wedding, would be kind of awkward because we’re celebrating something that already happened.
Has anyone done this? How did it turn out?
Post # 3
I had thought of doing this but making the reception more casual. Either a sit down meal at a nice venue or a big cookout renting out a park shelter (bouncy house, outside games). I was thinking I would get a second white dress that was not a full length and was just nice and simple.
Post # 4
I just recently photographed a reception that was in a different state than the wedding was. The bride wore a short semi-casual white dress and had a black short sleeved sweater over it when it got cooler.
Post # 5
a couple of my friends did this and of course it’s not awkward at all! one couple got married in key west just the 2 of them, and then came back and had a casual backyard cookout “reception”, which was more their style. they did a cake cutting but no speeches, no dances, they just weren’t into that. it was really fun and even tho the actual wedding happened a week or two prior everyone is still just as excited as if it just happened. she just wore a pink sun dress from the gap, no weddingish attire at all. she wore a j.crew wedding dress for her ceremony. Another couple had a full on formal reception after getting married with just family present at his families lake house. their ceremony was very casual, she wore a simple short lace sundress. but for the reception she got a traditional formal gown. they did all the typical stuff, the speeches, cake, dances, etc and it wasn’t weird or awkward at all. it was very nice and like the first couple, everyone is equally as excited and the mood is exactly the same as if we had just come from the ceremony. So definitely wear something different from what you wore to the ceremony and just make it fit the type of party your having. (yay! perfect excuse for 2 wedding dresses!). whatever you do, casual cookout or full formal reception or something else all together, the mood and guests will be the same: happy for you and thrilled to be there to celebrate your new marriage!
Post # 6
I think that you would treat it just like a reception if that’s what you want to do. If you’d rather it be casual, then go with that – it’s your party!
Personally, I’d show a video of your ceremony (if you are having it videoed) before you and your husband enter, then after the video you can be announced in all your wedding finest (wear the dress again! You paid and spent enough time on it – why not?!) and get the party started!
Post # 7
Two of my friends got married in Hawaii and then had a reception back home on the mainland. They both wore to the reception what they wore to the wedding and it was perfect – totally not awkward at all!! They also did a first dance (for the second time?) and it was great. Just do what you feel comfortable doing. I would definately wear the dress again – how often do we get a chance to do that??
Post # 8
My aunt did this…they got married down south, invited very close friends and family to spend the whole weekend there, with just a cake and punch type “reception” after, then they took everyone out to dinner. It was a lot of fun. Then, a few months later they had the full on reception back home, invited everyone, almost literally, did all the traditional dances, cake, dinner, DJ, everything. The wedding party all wore their dresses/tuxes again and so did the bride and groom. They also had the wedding ceremony playing on loop in the back of the room so people could see it if they wished. It was nice, especially since this was each of their second weddings, so they did it exactly as they wanted, small, intimate, in a chapel in the woods, it was wonderful!
Post # 9
Definitely wear your wedding dress! I think there will be many people who would love to see you in it!
Post # 10
My BF’s sister just did this. She had a Destination Wedding in St. Thomas, and then a backyard reception at their new house! It wasn’t awkward just a great way to include everyone, since only close family really made the trip down to the Caribbean.
In St. Thomas, they got married, then hosted cocktail hour and a 4 course dinner for the 20 of us who went. They didn’t do a first dance, but they cut a little cake. BF’s sister wore a long white dress.
Then at their backyard reception, they set up a tent and had it fully catered with a bar and dance floor/dj, she wore a shorter white dress, they did the more official looking cake cutting, the first dances, and the bride and groom’s close friends gave toasts.
We went to 5 weddings this summer and both events were hands down the best we went to!
Post # 11
my cousin did this and his wife wore her wedding gown at the rception hall, they had a slide show of pics from the actual wedding, had a cake and everything, it was really nice…
Post # 12
Hell yes wear your wedding dress again!! I would LOVE to wear my wedding dress again!!!!
Post # 13
My husband and I were very seriously considering getting married out of state. If we did, we were thinking about having an open house when we got back. I liked that idea better than having to plan a complete second event – felt like 2 weddings to me. We would have had it all day (10 – 6?) on a Saturday so that the guests were staggered. We were planning on having wedding pictures available. We thought it would have been a fun way for people to see our new home, see our pictures and congratulate us without planning a huge affair.