Post # 1
We are considering a destination wedding but our parents think we should have some type of reception when we return. We are looking to save money and would like to do a picnic when we get back. Is that too cheap? I don’t care if people bring gifts or anything, it’s about celebrating and I don’t even know if I will register anywhere, although my parents think I should also register.
They also want us to have the picnic catered and I don’t really see a need for that. I think we can easily make up little sandwhiches or find somebody to station at the grill with brats and burgers. Side dishes too would be easy to fix up. It seems like an unneeded expense to hire a caterer. They did offer to pay for a big reception here or the caterer for our picnic but my FI feels strongly that he would like us to do this with limited or ideally no financial help.
I just think a picnic would be a fun way to celebrate. We have a near by park that has a lot of space outside and a nice wood floored shelter/pavillion. We thought we’d get a collection of yard games and maybe even rent a bounce house for the kids attending. Anyways, I think it sounds fun but I don’t want people to think it’s tacky or anything.
Post # 3
In my opinion it doesn’t sound cheap! i actually think that it is a great idea. The only thing i would miss with that kind of picnic would be the music and dancing….but that stuff might not be as important to you!
Post # 4
You could do the same BBQ foods but have it catered by a local BBQ restaurant. You could have brisket and okra. I think you could really work with the picnic idea but it would def. make things more organized to have someone there handling the food. There are alot of cute things you could do for decorating too.
I don’t know if you would want to do this but i have seen some receptions like this where people have added some of the traditional wedding reception things to the evening (cake, 1st dance, bouquet toss etc). People that can’t make it to the wedding would probably like to see you cut the cake and have a 1st dance!
Things like this would make it feel more like a wedding reception/celebration than just a normal BBQ.
Post # 5
my bro and SIL did something similar and it was very nice maybe you could do a potluck vs catering
they did BBQ and it was great with a fruit tray and cake…
they didn’t want to register either but finally did and they got a ton of gifts and money as well. everyone had a great time it was a lot of fun
and for the bounce house i wanted one for my wedding when it was orginally going to be in the spring!!! can i come please?? Lol
Post # 6
My best advice to you is this: do what YOU and YOUR HUSBAND want. It sounds like you are pumped about this picnic idea, so go with it! I don’t think it sounds tacky at all; tacky would be inviting everyone to the park and serving only soda. 😉 LOL I would love to go if I was in your family; it sounds very relaxed and low-key.
Post # 7
We’re totally doing the same thing! We are having a small ceremony and reception in my parents backyard. We have a lot of friends where we live now (Knoxville), that we just can’t fit into the small space of the wedding.
We’ve decided to do a cook-out once we get back, with games like ladderball and corn hole. We are letting everyone know NOT to bring us gifts, we just want a chance to celebrate with them!
Post # 8
We are thinking of doing the same thing! No gifts just celebrating our union.
Post # 9
I agree to do what you want to do and not worry about what people think. We had a destination weekend and then a “hometown reception” three weeks afterward. Our reception was dressy though, in a remodeled loft with a catered buffet. I wore a “nice” white dress but not my actual wedding dress and my husbands wore a black suit. It worked great and I think guests really enjoyed being able to celebrate with us, regardless of whether or not they actually witneessed the nuptuals.
Post # 10
A picnic sounds just fine. If someone wants to take hold of the grill thats fine too, but just take in account on how many people you will have there. Will someone want to stand there all day and grill and not be able to enjoy the rest of the festivities? I would just check into how much it would be catered by a local restaurant.
I would totally take up your parents help on the catering. If you can guys afford it on your own..perfect… but if not..theres no shame in taking help when its offered.
Post # 11
I’d go for the grill, with some side salads and such from your local deli / Whole Foods. If you’re going to have a bunch of people I would not plan on doing the catering yourself other than buying and grilling.
Post # 12
I appreciate all the feedback now last night FI and I made our final decision to have a full wedding here! We kept going back and forth and we both wanted each option at a different point but we’ve decided we can go to Vegas (which is where we were going to get married) any other time and have a picnic any other time but this is the only time we can have a formal wedding reception. So I guess no picnic but it was a fun idea!
Post # 13
Don’t give up on your picnic! Do it for the rehearsal. Make it fun and enjoy your family and friends for a small “pre” party the night before (If your wedding isn’t too early in the day). 🙂
Post # 14
I SO want a bounce house at my outdoor reception. We’re going to have yard games like bocce, cornhole, etc… too. At first I was totally joking when I got sick of people asking us what we were going to do, so I started telling them “We’re having a bounce house and a slip n slide!” But deep down, I’m not joking…. haha My fiance is somewhat on board with the idea, but I think he’s worried what our SUPER traditional southern families are going to think (whereas I don’t care… haha).
Post # 15
Do you include the “hometown reception” invite/info in the wedding invite? Did you send out a seperate invite?
Thanks for your help!!!