reception after destination wedding…gift registry or no?

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would say no, they didn’t go to your actual wedding. This is just a little party celebrating your marriage and not the actual thing.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I’m not sure.  I would maybe show the registry only to immediate family members if they ask, and not to your friends.

I’m wondering the etiquette myself…  having a DW as well.  Wondering if I can invite people to the bridal shower who were invited to the wedding, but declined.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Agree with alleycat. They weren’t invited to the actual wedding, just a celebration. I don’t think it’s proper to register. It would seem very gift grabby (in my eyes) to mention a registry.

Congrats on your elopement!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Even though we didn’t plan on having a registry for our wedding, so many people ended up asking so we set up one of those online cash registries. People that couldn’t make it really wanted to give a gift. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If you weren’t throwing a reception, I think it would be gift grabby.

You are, so I have no clue why this is gift grabby. Why would you spend your own money to throw a party, just to get gifts? It makes no sense.

I don’t think it is a requirement that you only give gifts to people if you actually attend the wedding. You give gifts because you love them and want to celebrate their recent marriage! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would do a registry but not put it on the invitation or anything…

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

following because I want to do the same thing. and i agree with creaturefromtheblacklagoon.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are also planning the same type of events. Also not having a bridal shower or engagement party. We will set up a registry but not advertise it. If people ask about it then we will let them know via word of mouth, but it won’t be information that we will offer up without people asking. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Like others have said, I’ll be making a registry as well (our DW will be in Italy and we’ll have the reception when we get back). I don’t see it as gift-grabby and dont really understand why it would be. Ive been to so many weddings where many of the guests skip the ceremony anyway and just show up to the reception.

Edit: I wont list the registry on the invites though…i think thats the norm though.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  +100

@sweetpea8181:  Since you’re hosting a reception so that your nearest and dearest can celebrate your marriage with you, I think it’s fine to have a registry. Like PP said, just spread it via word of mouth if people ask. I would buy a gift in this situation because I was happy for the couple and wanted to celebrate the start of their life together.

@jaia07: I’ve been reading up on this because I’m having a DW as well. IMO, it’s fine to invite people to the bridal shower who have declined the wedding, as long as you would have invited them anyway. I don’t really care about the gifts, but I want a chance to celebrate with people who can’t come to the wedding due to time, expense, etc.

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sweetpea8181:  People are going to want to give you gifts, so I think it’s totally fine for you to have a registry.

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