- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
So, first of all, Fi and I are paying for everything ourselves. Since we both have huge families (guest list is 250, family only, no children) we decided to have a champagne and cake reception. There was no way we would be able to afford to feed everyone, so we thought this was a great solution. The wedding is at 1 with the reception immediately to follow (we have the reception hall until 6, but I really don’t expect people to stay that long).
Our plan (for months now) was to go out to a nice dinner after the reception with just the wedding party and parents, and then our wedding party was getting us hotel rooms to hang out the rest of the evening.
Then, last night, FMIL tells me that she is having an “after party” for his family at his aunt’s house, where they will have lots of food, etc. She is very excited about it, because she invited “all the people she wasn’t allowed to invite to the wedding” due to budgetary/fire code issues.
Aside from stepping on our/our BM/GM’s toes with this, I think it is tacky to have an “after party” for our wedding and not invite my side, as well…which there just isn’t room for at the party location.
Now, I love FMIL, but I just don’t know what to do! I really don’t see this as being ok; if they wanted to do it a week later, after we got back from our honeymoon, I wouldn’t have a problem with it, but the day of? I think it’s because she thinks we need to feed people – which I understand, but we just couldn’t afford it without help (which we aren’t getting)…
I have no idea what to do! Please help!