Post # 1
Hoping I can get some guidance here…
My FIL is single (divorced from my FI’s mother), and FMIL is not coming to the wedding (she is in Europe and has decided that she does not want to pay to for a flight to see her son get married). Suffice it to say that neither my FI or my FIL have a good relationship with FMIL (whom I have never met – she doesn’t speak english, also).
I already feel bad for wanting a father/daughter dance (when we are clearly unable to have a mother/son dance), but my friends and FI assure me it’s fine, and that since the father/daughter dance is important to me, it is fine to have this.
The other issue now is the entrance for the bridal party for the reception…
Usually, the parents get announced first, and then the bridal party, but that would mean it would be first my parents, and then my FIL… he would be walking in alone and that might make him uncomfortable. However, I want them to have an entrance because they are huge parts of our lives.
Thoughts? I’m really torn about this.
Post # 3
You could have all three of the parents walk in together and be introduced in one joint introduction for your mother, father and fi’s father. If there are any FSIL or FBIL you could have your whole future in-law family introduced as a unit.
You could also ask FFIL what he thinks. It might not bother him in the least to walk in on his own. As for the guests, they don’t care how it’s done. Either they already know the person (in which case they will recognize them no matter who they walk in with) or they don’t (in which case they will probably not remember their name 20 minutes later, just because there’s so much going on at a wedding).
Post # 4
My parents weren’t announced at our reception, just the bridal party.
Post # 5
How about you have all three of them walk in together? My mother is a widow so she walked in DH’s parents-it was awesome to see the three of them together. If that isn’t in option how about a grandmother/aunt/niece? Personally for me, I wanted the least amount of attention possible brought to the fact that my father wasn’t there and to be honest- I am not sure if anyone even thought twice about it!
Post # 6
@fishbone: Thanks! I was thinking that too, but I kind of wanted my parents to have their own spotlight. Unfortunately, my FI is an only child so there isn’t anyone else to accompany my FIL… which is a shame because that would have been PERFECT!
Post # 7
Do you have to do announcements at all? I never really pay attention to them and didn’t have one at our wedding, and things still went off without a hitch 🙂
Post # 8
@KristenGotMarried: No, I don’t have to, but I’d like to. I’d like my parents to have some spotlight time, too!
Post # 9
Ask your FIL what he wants to do….my FIL would have loved to walk in by himself and ham it up. You FIL may be totally fine walking alone.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
For the dance– it’s important to you because you have a relationship with you father– even if she did come, your FI probably wouldn’t want to dance with his mother anyway.
For the enterance, are you sure he would mind being announced alone? Or are there any siblings or cousins who would escort him? What about your FI’s god mother? (if he has one?)
Post # 11
as for the dance…
you could have FI take the dance with your mom instead if he and she doesn’t mind.
And I don’t like spotlight father/daughter and then mother/son as most of the guests will get super bored, so we plan to combine both dances…and probably in the middle of the dance will invite the rest of the guest to join the dances…
Post # 12
We’re only announcing the bridal party, not the parents. So that’s an idea.
Post # 13
@NinaS: does FI have a grandmother or an aunt that he is closer with than his mom (sounds like thats very possible)? FIL could walk with her.
my mother passed away, so at my brother’s wedding my dad walked in with our grandma, who we are both very close with.