(Closed) reception card etiquette

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we include registry cards with reception only invites
    Include registry cards : (2 votes)
    5 %
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  • Post # 3
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    7884 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @danamelanie:  What do you mean by inviting them to the reception but not the supper? Does that mean they’re not invited to the meal, but can come after the meal for the dancing?

    In most places, this is considered bad manners, because you in effect have two classes of guest. Before doing any non-meal invites at all, you should be sure it is acceptable in your region.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    @danamelanie:  mmm I definitely don’t think it’s a good idea.  

    TBH if I was only invited after the ceremony and meal I wouldnt be going:(

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    TO @danamelanie:  

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    You will get flack on this topic… especially as tiered Wedding Events aren’t the norm in the USA… where most of WBee’s Users reside.

    Lol, so brace yourself.

    I on the otherhand, SEE that your WBee Profile says you are in Canada…

    Where altho this practice isn’t common… it isn’t rare either (tiered Weddings being something that has carried over here from our close relationship with our “British” Cousins).  I have been to many such events in my lifetime.

    The Guest List typically is one’s more casual friends than close family & friends (they all having already been taken care of)… so it is perfectly fine for say.. the gals from your Baseball Team, Hubby’s Hockey Team (and their SOs) etc.

    Casually, the Reception Cards usually are an invite to come to the Party Portion to Celebrate with the Newlyweds for an Evening of Dancing & Fun.

    More formally they would be worded similarly to the Wedding Invite…

    In whatever case, they should match the style and presentation of your other Wedding Stationery.

    And as is the case with ALL Wedding Invites… from the strictest Etiquette perspective there should be NO MENTION OF GIFTS WHATSOEVER… (be that No Gifts, Boxed Gifts, or Monetary Gifts)

    Mentioning Gifts WITH an Invitation is very RUDE… and seen as being Gift Grabby

    Put out that info by word of mouth or “discreetly” on your Wedding Website

    It is particularly vulgar to invite someone to join just the Party Portion of your Wedding Day and mention gifts.

    Gifts should NEVER BE EXPECTED… and more so if it is from someone who isn’t invited to the whole event.

    IF they wish to give you something… well that is as they say “just gravy”

    Hope this helps,

     

    Post # 6
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    669 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @paula1248:  +1

     

    And you should never include registry information with any invitation (other than shower, and even then that gets iffy).

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @danamelanie:  I’m learning this kind can vary from region to region, but I do think that, no matter where you live, you shouldn’t include your registry info anywhere on an invite 🙂

    Post # 10
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    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    TO @danamelanie:  You are very welcome… glad I could help.

    If you need more info / assistance, you can always drop me a PM with the details, and I’ll draft up the appropriate wording for you.

    Lol, as for the stories you told about past Weddings… 2 of those would have been quite RUDE.

    The one where you were given a Bill for your Dinner… YIKES !!

    But also the one where you were invited to one event… the Ceremony and then the Party after the Reception.  Not cool.

    The rule of thumb for Tiered Weddings, is once you are there.. you are there for the duration.  So the correct options would have been… Wedding – Dinner Reception – Dancing… or Reception & Dancing… or just Dancing.

    Hope this helps,

     

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