Post # 1
We are getting married at a county park that we both found and fell in love with, we have been taking our children there for awhile now and they love it as well. Its everything that we wanted in a venue, rustic, outdoors, beautiful scenery, ect…..The only problem is that they do not allow alcohol on the premises. Our wedding is at 1 with reception at 2, so not a huge drinking time. It is also going to be very family friendly since we both have children from previous relationships as do a lot of the guests.
My concern is this, I know a lot of people like to drink at weddings, including me, but do you think they will understand our situation and come anyway? We have included the info in our invitations and on our websites so everyone should be aware if they pay attention.
Also, what are the bees thoughts on an after party at a seperate location? Are the bride and groom responsible for the cost of this, or do you just gather at a predetermined location and everyone pays for their own? I’m not sure because I have never been to one. I would love to do this, but want to make sure we will be able to fit it into our budget should we decide to do it.
Any advice appreciated!
Post # 3
I’m just curious as to why you felt you needed to inform your guests of the no-alcohol rule at your venue? Are people truly going to be upset?
I absolutely think people will still come, even if they can’t get alcohol! Oh my goodness… and if they don’t want to come because of there’s no alcohol then they have much bigger problems! I would suggest having delicious cocktail-style drinks using punch, pop, juice, etc. Because it’s an early afternoon wedding, I doubt people will even miss the alcohol.
Post # 4
I’m all for the after party. While I would go to a dry wedding if it was someone close to me, I really don’t think I would enjoy it. I have one of those coming up in August and I’m dreading it. Sorry to burst your bubble :/
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
I wouldn’t even mention the no-alcohol rule & have a fun, summer afternoon reception. Your timing is perfect for this kind of reception. There are so many other fun things you can do!
An after party sounds like a great idea! I think if you mention/designate a gathering place, rather than a formal invite for the after party, you will be fine with people picking up their own tabs. Or, offer to cover beer and wine & they’re on their own for hard alcohol.
Post # 6
I’ve never understood why people are so attached to drinking at weddings. I mean, if you can’t have fun without alcohol, you’re not a very fun person!! Serve lemonade or punch. I had an after party following our wedding. We just booked a private room at a local bar, and paid the fee for that. Drinks were paid for by the guests– it was very informal.
Post # 7
It depends on your friends and family. Most of mine do not expect alcohol at all and are even offended by it. My FI family considers it a part of a wedding reception and would be disappointed by no opportunity to celebrate with some bubbly.
If you think the majority of your guests won’t mind, don’t worry about it. No reason to do something just because its expected. If you think your guests will seriously miss it, spread the word through your wedding party and family members (don’t put it on the invite!) and plan an after party. In my opinion, if you haven’t already provided an open bar, it would be an appropriate gesture. Considering you would if you could at your "regular" reception, I would do it if you can. While after parties by and large are cash bar, its usually because there was an open bar at the reception. Still, if you do a cash bar at your after party, people will still appreciate a designated place to congregate and celebrate with a drink.
Post # 8
I say have it in the park. It will be so pretty and relaxing. If it is what you are wanting to do, then do it. I did not have an after party so I don’t know if you pay for that or not. It seems like a fun idea!
Post # 9
I forgot to say — of course your loved ones will come! Its about your marraige, not the party. The party is icing on the cake 🙂
Post # 10
I think people will be understanding of the no alcohol in a park (where children play!) thing and there are a lot of cute ways you can serve drinks like lemonade and soda. If this is where you want to have it, I think you should!
As for the after party, of the two that I’ve been to, one couple hosted it at their house and another in a club of the hotel where everyone was staying. The only thing we had to pay for was the one in the hotel club and that was for drinks. So to me it seems like something the couple hosts and pays for. Hope this helps!
Post # 11
I have been thinking the same thing! I want to have a picnic reception in a park, and they don’t allow alcohol either around here. In the end, though, it would have to be an afternoon thing, so I was also considering an afterparty. I don’t think guests should care if there are alcoholic drinks at the reception. If we go this route, I plan on just inviting everyone to join us later at another spot. If we go to a bar or something, I would probably let them foot the bill, as it’s not the reception and you probably already provided a meal. And its totally up to them to show up. Now if we have people over to our house afterwards, which is an option, I would provide some alcohol.
Post # 12
My friend had a dry wedding and we all went out to a bar afterwards. We paid for our own drinks afterwards. The wedding was beautiful and no one seemed to care that there wasn’t any alcohol.
Post # 13
I do not like booze, so I’d be fine with it. =) Anyone who’s coming to your wedding to celebrate with you because they’re genuinely happy for you (you know, the only people who should be at your wedding anyways) shouldn’t have a problem with it. Especially when your wedding is in the early afternoon!