Post # 1
Hey loves! I just dropped a wad of cash on a wedding gown and I’m just wondering about others’ experiences and thoughts on the pros and cons of changing into another dress for the reception.
Thus far, I can understand, even with a bussle, not wanting to dance it up in a larger wedding gown (mine is a-line, though not a ball gown) and, I mean, who wouldn’t love to wear another gorgeous dress, right? My hang up is my bank account. I was already having a bit of a rough time rationalizing the cost of a wedding dress considering it will only be worn for a few hours (though, I quickly got over that once I fell in love with my dress and decided to have a day-after shoot to get more bang for my buck), but spending a nice chunk of change on a second dress to sweat in (I’m a big dancer and we’ll be in the caribbean) is a bit harder for me to wrap my head around, however gorgeous it may be.
I know that wedding decisions are super personal and thus different for everyone, I’m just not sure if this one is right for me yet. I’d like to hear why/why not other brides chose/are choosing to have a reception dress in case I’m missing something. I’d also LOVE to see photos of your bridal gown vs. reception dress (of course)!
Let the share-fest begin! Thanks in advance for your input loves 🙂
Post # 2
I had what I considered to be a “medium” style dress (fit n flare, mermaid, trumpet, etc), not too heavy; however I wish I had picked something lighter to dance in or gotten a second dress. Some girls can deal with wearing a fancy dress all night, but I apparently couldn’t. Here’s what I ended up doing to my dress at the reception lol.
Post # 3
housebee: I love that you just went for it! You make a good point though, thanks for your input 🙂
Post # 4
You spent a wad of money on a dress you love which you will only wear for a few hours (apart from the next day shoot but that’s not your wedding anymore IMO)
To me the answer is obvious, I would keep the dress I love on as long as possible and keep my money for other things.
Post # 5
housebee: O.M.G. Girrrllll… seeing that picture made my heart start beating faster! LOL
That makes for an awesome story and an even more awesome photos! I will never be as brave as you so I will just sit here in awe of you 🙂
Post # 6
I dance with my dress all night long 🙂 I will only get one chance to wear my wedding dress so why not enjoy it right? Once I had a little drink I am good. I dance and walk on the grass with it chasing the kids 🙂
Me getting down:
My husband step on it:
Then the bustle came off:
Wedding planner sewing my dress so I can keep on dancing lol
Post # 7
I had a big giant dress. And we spent more money on it than I had planned. My dress budget was $2k. I determined that if I found a ceremony & reception dress, then they had to be combined under $2k, but we went a bit over budget on my ceremony dress, and so I stayed in it all night! I also wore it over to the after party!
Granted, I was holding it to dance most of the time, once we got moving.
Beginning of the night:
Well into dancing:
Post # 8
ThursdayLove: I am definitely changing! That being said, I’m undecided whether I’m changing BACK into my full length gown after the father daughter dance and first dance. See, FI and I met swing dancing and we actually know quite a bit as we go out dancing a few times a week. There is no way we’d be able to do those fast moves or crazy footwork if I were wearing a long dress. Since we met dancing, we wanted to make sure to have a great first dance – people are expecting it and have even been commenting how ready they are to see our first dance!
Also, I’m not spending a dime on my reception dress. It was my sorority meeting dress way back when (looks similar to the Marilyn Monroe classic white dress). I gave it to my sister ages ago and she reminded me of it. She’s getting it dry cleaned and bringing it to me for the dances. 🙂
After the first dance, I’m not too worried about wearing the long dress for dancing – I spent enough on it to wear it for the whole night! So, I may change back, unless I’m just incredibly hot and can’t stand wearing the full length any longer.
Post # 9
Nomster: I definitely understand the need to change for a swing dance. A friend of mine who married recently did the same because, well, it’s just not going to happen in a wedding dress (unless it’s a short one maybe). Even better that it’s not going to cost you extra for the reception dress. And, now that you’ve mentioned your awesome swing dancing skills, I’m thinking you should share your first dance with the hive, yes? 😉 Sounds like it’ll be amazing!
simplylyn17: LaPetiote: Yeah, my gut is pretty much like, “Umm, you just spent $$ on a dress, wear that sucker till you sweat it off!” haha. Just checking to make sure there’s not something I hadn’t considered. Thanks for your input!
Post # 10
Haha, we’ll be having my cousin get a video on my camera, so I’ll definitely have one! (As long as I don’t trip or something… I’ll put it on youtube, and put the link up here for people who are interested.)
Post # 11
I loved my wedding gown so much I can’t fathom wanting to take it off for the reception! Hell, I loved it so much I got it dyed black so that I could wear it again! If you love your wedding gown, I’d think you’d want to wear it all night. But that’s me. I’m really cheap. So keep that in mind…
Post # 12
We are having our ceremony and formal sit-down reception (reception will go for about 2-3 hours) before switching the style to a more laid back country party vibe with a bonfire and plenty of drinks. I will be wearing my ceremony dress for the formal part of the night, and changing into a simple white dress for the party part as I plan on being able to chill in front of the fire and run around on the grass and dance the night away with no stress about the dress! It will also help signify the end of the nights formal events and that anyone who wants to go home at that point may do so.
Post # 13
ThursdayLove: i didnt get one. more people then i thought would, were wondering if i was going to get one. hell no i thought. i spent this much and only get to wear it for an hour?? yeah right. but the reception came and even though DH loved my wedding dress, he wanted to dance (he doesnt dance often) but he couldnt really dance with me because i could barly dance in my dress. he wanted to lift me up and swing me around. who would have thought? lol so i had wished i got one. he convinced me to go out to the bars with everyone. something i thought i would never do on my wedding night but hey its a once in a life time and it was a semi DW. so i ran to my car and happened to have my rehersal dress in the back. threw it on and went out. we were able to dance and i was able to move and keep up with everyone. if i could do it again. i would have gotten a cheap white dress from modcloth or something. even then i might have regreted only wearing my hundreds of dollars wedding dress for a few hours.
Post # 14
JenGirl: I know! I didn’t want to take mine off after I found it. It’s not really heavy either so if I have to hold it up for a bit while I dance, it’s no big deal.
nessdawwg: Oh, the bonfire sounds AMAZING! The dress change definitely makes sense in the context of your evening. I went to a wedding in Melbourne last november, love that city!
souza_2005: You raise a good point. I guess it couldn’t hurt to have a simple backup that I really like (and would wear as part of my own wardrobe) just in case. We’re not having a formal/traditional rehearsal dinner per se so maybe I could take that “budget” and purchase a backup.
Post # 15
ThursdayLove: Thanks 🙂 I can’t wait!! I do not however know the flammability of different materials of wedding dress but I do know how hard they are to get off, so I’d rather not go up in a ball of flame at any point hahaha 😛
I also plan on reselling my dress and am a notorious grott at times. I am like 90% sure I can keep it fairly clean during dinner (probably just won’t eat LOL) but afterwards… well there is no way in hell I could avoid stains haha.