(Closed) Reception Etiquette Question

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not doing the bouquet and garter toss… A lot of my friends and family have done it, buuuut I just never really liked it and don’t feel comfortable with FI going up my dress with my 85 yr old grandmother watching – it just bothers me. We are doing other “traditional” stuff though – cake cutting, father/daughter dance etc… Other than that I’m just looking forward to a night full of dancing with my friends and family!! They are all love to dance so as long as I have a good DJ I don’t think I’ll need to do anything else to keep the party going!

What are going away outfits? I’ve never heard of that before.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

We didn’t do any of that stuff, because I always felt it was so forced.  We just didn’t want to have to adhere to a timeline.  However, it is your wedding so if you want to do it, go for it!!!  : ) 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re not doing the garter or bouquet toss, mostly because we are both shy and also we aren’t having many single guests!

The last wedding I went to had both of those things though!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

We don’t plan to, but if you want to do it, go for it!

I think as long as you’re respectful of your guests, it’s your choice! By respectful, I mean don’t have the DJ call out, by name, repeatedly, the single women who choose not to participate in the bouquet toss, etc., interveneing if the creepy old single uncle catches the garter and a sixteen year old cousin catches the bouquet, and he wants to put the garter on her; stuff like that.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I’m not sure I understand how this is an etiquette question, but, we did the bouquet toss but not the garter toss. I also don’t believe that going away outfits are traditional; I think they’re usually a practical matter if the couple is going straight to their honeymoon and has to leave behind their tux and gown. Personally I think the bouquet toss is a lot of fun and enjoyed doing it at my wedding; it’s also just nice to have something to break up the pattern of the evening aside from just the cake cutting. The garter thing creeps me out, which is a common opinion among a lot of brides which is why you don’t see it done nearly as often as the bouquet toss anymore.

Post # 9
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Most of my female friends are in serious relationships or engaged/married so I’m choosing not to do a bouquet toss.  I also feel weird having FI grab a garter from my leg in front of 350 of our closest friends/family, so we’re going to forego the garter toss as well.  If it’s something you want to do, you should do it…if not, don’t!  It’s your day, make it how you want!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Thanks @IvyClimb: and @SoontobeMsL:! I’ve never heard of that before! We won’t be leaving for the honeymoon right after the wedding so I guess it’s just not practical for us to do something like that. We’re actually having an after party haha. Plus…. I’m gonna be spending a good chunk o’ change on my dress and I’m going to want to wear that bad boy all night!

That’s a cute idea for those leaving directly after for their honeymoon though!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

@SoontobeMsL: I do agree, I think going away outfits are adorable.  ESPECIALLY if you got something vintage glam like your photo.  We didn’t leave for our honeymoon but instead went back to the hotel to party with our guests.. so I just put on my favorite little black cotton dress and had a great time on the hotel deck! 

Post # 14
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1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We did it! I always think it is fun!! If you like it then go for it.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I didn’t do it, and I’m glad. Our wedding wasn’t traditional at all, we didn’t have dancing. Also, I hate being center of attention so all eyes on me while my hubby is down my skirt looking for a garter, me throwing a bouquet, and doing cake cutting just didn’t sound fun for me.

I think that kind of thing works for more traditional weddings, but not mine.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i think it’s very personal and whatever you and your groom feel best with.  I personally did bouquet throwing, garter, but not going away outfit.  I agree that these things add fun, but wouldn’t bother me if I went to a wedding without them either.  Do what you like hun and enjoy! 🙂

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