Post # 1
Please help us evaluate venue option 2. Our initial plan was to get married (wedding and reception all in one spot) in a two story concert hall over a bar. After some additional looking, we’ve found that there is a very similar venue that looks a bit more weddingy across the street. Problem is, it’s a bit smaller.
This place is an art gallery that also has a stage and hosts performances. Apparently the main room with the stage holds approximately 270 seated without tables, so we have plenty of room for the ceremony w 150 guests. However, they think this room will hold about 80 at tables, but there are other rooms in the gallery where we could put the rest of the ppl. It’s a small building that has fairly good flow between rooms, so people wouldn’t be that far apart. We’d also be sure to have amenities in each room (maybe food in one, drinks in another, etc.) so people would have good reason to go back and forth between rooms (and there’s art in each room as well).
Yay/nay? Any thoughts on how to handle speeches in this set up would also be appreciated. My first thoughts are to do them immediately following the cocktail hour while people are still up and about. I’m not a fan of speeches so this might be a good reason to keep them short…?
Post # 3
I attended a wedding this summer where some guests were seated in a separate room. I was one of them. It felt like we were second-best to the main-room guests. And it seemed like the bride & groom didn’t pick an adequate venue, it appeared too small. I vote no to spliting your guests up. I found it rude.
Post # 4
This is what I’m afraid of…
Do you mind if I ask if the #s were divided evenly? Do you think that would make any difference if 75 people were on one side and 75 people in the other? The space is essentially one long room w a wall in the middle and two walkways on either side.
What about this option… we’re doing an evening wedding (were thinking 6pm start, but maybe change that to 7:30 or 8), so what if this were just heavy appetizers and tall tables so people could stand and mingle. Think that would be better? That way we didn’t assign anyone to room B as it were… could have one room for talking and another one for dancing? There’s a good chance everyone would fit in the main room this way, but we’d still have to put the dance floor, food and bevs elsewhere…
Post # 5
My only experience with 2 rooms at a venue is the one from my last prom 😀 With that out of the way, I think it was just uncomfortable. Yes, sometimes I got off the dancefloor, wanted to talk, etc. but at the same time I didn’t wanna miss any of the “action” on the dancefloor. People might end up feeling like their constantly missing something if the can’t see the entire thing..
Post # 6
I would suggest avoiding it if you can for all the reasons listed by pp’s. If you can’t and this ends up as your venue your idea for tall tables is nice but also have lots of low tables too and like you said don’t assign seats so no one feels left out. My friend’s wedding earlier this year was held in an L shaped room she did a buffet with tall and low tables as well as didn’t assign seats which overall would have been fine except there wasn’t enough seating for everyone (so obviously avoid that as that’s not well received by most guests). Oh btw, she did reserve a few tables for elderly guests which I would also suggest. Good luck!
Post # 7
Well to throw another voice into the mix I am a bride who will be having two rooms, our venue cannot accomodate everyone in the main ball room. The additional room is right next to it with a linking arch doorway.
While I agree it isn’t ideal it is a matter of necessity that cannot be helped. We have added a sweetheart table to the second room so that we spend time in both and have chosen the buffet food option to encourage mixing and moving about.
I think with the second room you just have to be careful who you put there. We are putting a lot of our friends who are outgoing and lively who will have a grand time on their own and won’t feel put off. Putting family members in that side room might create a feeling of being second-best which of course we want to avoid.
Post # 8
I’m not crazy about the idea of separating your reception into 2 rooms. It’s hard to incorporate everyone into the evening, and some people will inevitably feel a little left out…
Post # 9
At the risk of offending those who are doing this — if you can avoid it, I would, esp if you are having a traditional wedding meaning there will be speeches, special dances, etc. There are some gorgeous venues that I avoided because people would be split up (especially old mansions). I think they work well for more “mingly” cocktail type receptions, but not as well for seated dinners where the second or third room is going to miss announcements or not be able to see the dance floor.