- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I need some advice fellow bees!
Yesterday I went for a walk-thru of my venue, Preservation Park, and spoke with the event coordinator about some of the details of the wedding. She asked me to consider having both the ceremony and the reception outside. We originally planned to have the ceremony and the cocktail hour outside (5:30p-7:30p) then inside for the remainder of the evening (ending around 11p). She pointed out that reception hall style receptions are lovely but that they tend to be plain unless loads of $$$ is spent on decorations + lightning.
I spoke with my wedding coordinator and she also thought it would be a lovely idea to have the entire wedding outside and sent me this link of a wedding at the same location during the same time of year to give some ideas about how it would look. She agreed that outside would be more dramatic and likely more cost-efficient for decorations.
I fell in love with the idea.
Who hates the idea? My future husband, my grandmother, his mother, and a boatload of older relatives (60+). What do they hate about the idea? EVERYTHING. His family thinks it will be tacky, too casual, like going to a picnic. My grandmother is sooo against the idea she asked if she could pay for the reception hall (not the decorations which is the freakin expensive part, but the hall which is several thousand $$$ less). My finance, although not really fond of the idea, is willing to compromise IF I can adequately address his concerns (heating and cost – which I can easily)
I explained to my family that the money is neither requested nor required. (The money would be appreciated but not at the cost of giving up my independance.)
So bees should I bow to family concerns and do the generic reception inside because that’s that *classy* people do?
Should I listen to the people I am paying (event coordinator and wedding coordinator) and respect their opinions that the reception outside can accommade all concerns (heating, lightning, class, fancy, ect) and move forward with our planning?
How do I explain this is *my/our* day and that we are planning the wedding – pointing out that invited guest(s) should not direct and or demand or dictate the scope of events?
I need some perspective bees.