Post # 1
Have any of you been concerned that no one will have fun at your reception? I have a tendency to make things a little uptight and I’m soo worried that people won’t relax at my reception. There will be music, good Italian foods, but no alcohol.
Should I be concerned about this or am I just thinking too much?
Post # 3
Looking back at the weddings I have been to, I think the most fun were the ones where the bride and groom were having a good time. If you are out dancing and having a good time, then your guests will too. No worries.
Post # 4
Music and food will make people happy 🙂 And if you’re concerned about the lack of alcohol getting people down, you can always have some creative signature drinks that are non-alcoholic. As @tksjewelry: said, a happy bride and groom who are enjoying themselves and their guests really sets the tone for the party.
Post # 5
I’ve analyzed the weddings that weren’t terribly fun, though, and this is what I came up wiht (and will try to avoid):
1) LONG SPEECHES! I was at a wedding where all 4 groomsmen, all 4 bridsemaids, the Grooms Step-Father, the Brides Father, the Brides Step Father, and the Brides mother ALL gave speeches. They went on for over an hour. While I’m sure it was amazing for the bride and groom, it really killed things for the guests. We were all stuck in our chairs with empty drinks! If that many people want to talk at mine, I’m going to try to figure out a way to space them out a little (maybe before dinner, before dessert, or between courses??)
2) Bar was outside on patio instead of inside with dance floor. Everyone ended up congregating outside by the bar, where there was no music. The dance floor was a ghost town.
3) Dinner wasn’t served until TOO LATE! It was a Sunday night wedding. They didn’t even serve the salad course until after 9pm. I felt bad for them because half of the people ended up leaving instead of waiting for dinner.
With the above exceptions, I’ve always had a GREAT time at weddings! Just make sure the DJ has a feel for the room and keeps things moving! Like others said, as long as you have a happy bride and groom out there on the dance floor, fun will follow!
Post # 6
I was and still kinda am worried about guests having a good time. We are not having alcohol either. We’re having appetizers and lemonade on the back patio of the reception venue and then inside will be the sit down formal dinner and dancing. I’ve created things for my wedding to give guests something extra to do and that’s fun… our reception is sorta French country/shabby chic… at the outdoor entrance guests will fill small bags with lavender to take home… we’re having a dessert buffet full of macarons, cookies, cupcakes, candy… a thumbrint tree instead of a traditional guest book.. and line dances.. (minus the electric slide)..and a couple of games like the bride and groom shoe game, the kissing game, etc.. I think also one of the main things is to have great music and a great dj.
Post # 7
@Miss MoSlow: Well, I guess my dilemma is, Everyone who is invited is either over 40 (parents, uncles, grandparents) or under 15 (neices, and brothers) So we don’t really have any people our age to hang out with or do fun things that are in our age group. I’m not saying our family doesn’t have fun, it’s just they’re not inclined to dance, or do anything goofy. Lol, so I’m really at a loss of what fun things to plan for.
Post # 8
I’m worried about this too and we aren’t having a dance floor. It won’t be a long reception and it will be informal, but I keep trying to think of fun things to take up time that are fun and easy. I’m hoping it will all come together.
Post # 9
I am really really worried. I’ve only been to two weddings and I didn’t really have fun at either of them… my crew isn’t really even that huge on dancing (which is why I WILL be having alcohol lol) but the bar is also like, not by the dance floor, which I actually really liked so the bartender could hear orders and stuff, but now I’m worried they’ll congregate! Yikes! Plus we couldn’t afford a dj we are doing the ipod thing.. so now I’m even MORE worried!!
Post # 10
@Adriana.Niva: I’m doing the ipod thing too, and I’m trying to pick songs from everyone’s decade (alot from the 80’s lol) My venue has a built in dance floor, so might as well use it. Other than that, I thought about doing a photo booth, cuz my wedding is ‘an Evening in Italy’ and thought about saying ‘get pics of your evening in Italy’ Buuuut that’d be really hard to get anyone to participate. 😛 I’ve never thrown a party before, so I really don’t know.
However, my fiance came up with a perfect idea for talking, lol. He says whatever party he goes to, before he goes he decides on 5 topics, then goes the entire night, talking to each person about all 5 topics. By the time he’s talked to everyone, the party is over! (He had to do a Lot of family parties growing up, lol) But that doesn’t solve the entertainment question. 😛
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I’m worried myself. We are having a bar and a dance floor, but half of our guests don’t drink, the other half are light drinkers, and we have a handful of heavy drinkers. My FI and I are a bit uptight ourselves, and don’t really like dancing. I’m hoping the partiers and DJ will liven things up.
I know my FI and I will have fun, but I don’t think we’ll be crazy or anything. @tksjewelry‘s post makes me feel better. If we’re enjoying ourselves and we have stuff for everyone to enjoy, hopefully everyone else will have a good time too. 🙂
Since you aren’t having alcohol, can you add some games or something? I’m thinking of doing a DIY photobooth, and you could have cornhole or something.
Post # 12
We didn’t have alcohol at our wedding, and it was still great! Everyone enjoyed themselves and told us how nice it was. 🙂
We DID have a great DJ and I think that helped a lot.
Post # 13
Oh no, there is gonna be dancing. Well, there will be the option! I just dunno who will and wont (I for example am not a HUGE dancer.. though considering I am going to be picking all the songs and will no doubt be really giddy all day I’m sure I’ll dance more than normal) … then again I have a lot of bms so I’m hoping they’ll liven stuff up haha.
Actually, several couples in our group of friends are engaged (and several more to come shortly) and I have a genius friend who is trying to make a photobooth and we will all split the cost of the supplies, so if that works it’d be awesome hahaha. Also I plan on putting some cards and stuff on the tables. I’d like to put other conversation peices but I dunno…
Post # 14
Yeah, I generally don’t enjoy weddings (only enjoyed two, but those were the only ones with much dancing.) My brother’s wedding – our whole family was just sitting there staring off into space for the last 2+ hours. My brother and I are the only ones on my mom’s side who enjoy dancing (and my fiance is a terrible dancer – he bounces to the beat, and moves his feet to who-knows-what rhythm.) Our reception will be 2-2 1/2 hours, and we’ll go to my mom’s house afterwards and set off fireworks. Even if it is dull, it won’t be TOO long.