(Closed) Reception Only Invites? I need your opinions

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s OK to do reception only invites – I am not doing it, but I’ve seen it done – I can’t remember the wording. Are there any guests you would feel more comfortable  inviting only to the reception/who would be more likely to understand the space limits?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@angelafarley8: I think you can do that, but be prepared for everyone to check “ceremony and reception”.

If I were a guest I would feel like a “second tier” invitee if I go ta “reception only” invite.

I would be a little offended and probably sad to know that you didn’t think highly enough of me to invite me to the ceremony.

I’d probably still come to the wedding, but “reception only” invites leave a bad taste in my mouth.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that if you are going to have a big wedding, you need to find the appropriate venues. To me, it;s rude to only invite certain people to the reception and others to both the ceremony and reception. You may really really love the small chapel but if you can’t keep to that number, then you need to look at other venues. People may argue that they don’t mind to miss the ceremony or whatever but it’s still initially rude. It’s one thing if it’s an only immediate family thing at the courthouse and the big reception later.

Sorry, that’s just my opinion.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@KatNYC2011:  Ditto. (FYI from now on I’m just going to have my profile automatically post : “I agree with Kat”).

I would be highly offended if I were invited to the reception and not the ceremony.  The marriage cermony is the actual point of the whole day.  I say either cut the list or move the ceremony.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have heard this is more common in the South, so it might be acceptable where your wedding is.

Just make sure you/your family spreads this info by word of mouth, and maybe say something like,” We invite you to celebrate the marriage of…” instead of “Reception only” on the invites.

Here is a good thread on this: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/can-we-invite-people-to-the-reception-only

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Moose1209: Haha… Let me know when you set that up… then I can post really inflammatory things and I’ll automatically have one person agree with me.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I see no problem with inviting some of your guests to the wedding and everyone to the reception. In fact I am doing the same thing with my wedding for the same reasons. The way i see it, is that  this is my wedding and I want to look back on my fiances and my day and not say, “but I wish…” What i am telling my guests that are not invited to the wedding ceremony, is that we decided to have a very intimate family/close friends ceremony.   If people are still mad at you, dont sweat it, they will get over it. Again this is yours and your fiances day, not theirs!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Until I came to WB, I noticed that MOST people come to the reception more than the ceremony itself. I wouldn’t sweat it. If I were you, I’d invite my nearest and dearest for the ceremony. Anyhow, I’m mean enough to invite them all and those who have seats, let them sit…ouch, that’s mean 🙁 Anyhow, do what’s best and convinient for you and your guests. I’d put you a notch above your guests though.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In my area, it’s common to have a more relaxed, word of mouth ‘open reception’ that is just extended to a good bunch of folks since the ceremony is more personal and for close family and friends. It’s generally a regular ceremony, sit down reception, and then ‘open dance’ where almost anyone who’s free that night around town shows up. So I personally wouldn’t be offended by a dance invite, but I’m familiar with them so it may make a difference. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am doing a small short ceremony (about 65 ppl) and a bigger reception (about 175). Here is the wording I used (casual wedding):

Ceremony and Reception:

Your name and

His name

along with their parents

invite you to share and celebrate at their wedding

Saturday, June 18, 2011

at 5:00 in the afternoon

Small Church

Reception to follow after

 

 

Reception only:

Your name and

His name

will be married in a private ceremony on Saturday, June 18th, 2011.

Together with our families, we invite you to join us afterward

at a reception to celebrate our marriage.

Six o clock in the evening.

Reception site

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

no suggestion on wording but i think i’ve seen some wording for reception only invites for those who got married in a different city and then having a reception at a later date.  i think it is worded something along the lines of, “so and so request the honor of your presence at a celebration of their marriage…”

for me i would not be offended to only be invited to a reception because that’s how it’s done in my culture.  the ceremony is usually a more intimate affair for close family and friends at either the bride and/or groom’s parents’ home and then a bigger chinese banquet dinner/reception afterwards. but we’re talking about several hundred people at the reception and that’s where most of the fun and celebrating happens. 

our rehearsal dinners are also different because it includes everyone and is more of an informal rehearsal party. 

Post # 15
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Newbee

@angelafarley8:

I see nothing wrong with this. The reception is the most fun part anyways!

Post # 16
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Newbee

I personally dont believe there is anything wrong with doing a reception only invites. I am doing this. We are having only a few family members at the ceremony then having a big reception for fam and friends. I have lots of different wording suggestions I am able to share with you if you would like. Let me know!

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