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    denverbirdlet    September 18, 2010   Denver, getting married in Madison, WI

    Our wedding ceremony location has a specific space limit of 120 ppl.  When we booked the site, we thought our wedding would be only about 100 people, so this was fine, however, out of the woodwork (i.e. my mother's and FMIL's address books) all this extended family has materialized that absolutely must be invited according to said parties.  Needless to say, this means that our guest list has ballooned beyond the 120 limit, so we are having to do reception only invites for some guests (I know this is an etiquette no-no, but its not that uncommon in the midwest and I've been invited to several weddings as a reception only guest).  My question is, do we send a save-the-date to the reception only invitees?  We are inviting all the OOT guests to both ceremony and reception since it seemed silly to ask them to come from far away for just one, so all the reception only invites are local folk.  Any insight?

     
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    pren79    10/17/09   SF Bay Area

    I would say that the reception-only attendees also need to save their date, no? I would tailored my STD for the reception-only attendees (so without ceremnoy-related info if that info is in ur regular STD)....

     
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    Valhalla    June 26, 2010   Vancouver, British Columbia

    I would say you could! Just specify on the STD that it is for the reception - something along the lines of "Save the Date for the Wedding Reception of X and Y!". That way it makes it clear.

    I try not to get too hung up on etiquette unless those in your circle are likely to care.

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    I think you still need to do STDs even if they are just reception guests because they have to know what date it is anyway, right? If it's a common thing in your area to have reception-only guests then I don't think it's a big deal. 

     

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