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Are you being announced? I think if you're being announced you can have the first dance first and then sit down to eat. Traditionally the couple opens the dance floor so by doing it before dinner you're basically telling everyone that as soon as they're done they can get their boogie on. :)
We are doing the first dance right away. Our DJ is the one who recommended it because 1) everyone is paying attention then and 2) people can get up and dance once they are done eating.
You can do whatever you want. I went to a wedding in September and the first thing that they did after they were introduced was have their first dance.
I've seen both ways done well. We are dancing first then eating. No such thing as a no-no, in this case!
We thought about doing the dance first, but I want to have the opportunity to have a couple drinks to calm the nerves before dancing in front of everyone. So now we are doing it after dinner.=) I think that you can do whatever you want, it is your wedding.
i want there to be light when we have our first dance (since we're getting married outside) so we're dancing before dinner!
Mrs. Swan just posted about her entrance-straight-into-first-dance reception opening. I'm planning on come in to an entrance, then eating, then first dancing. But that's only because that's how my family does it. Either way is fine, whatever you are more comfortable with!
We're going to have a first dance then a surprise bollywood dance with our bridal party/friends/family and then we'll serve dinner. I couldn't imagine trying to do the dance routines on a full stomache!
Every wedding I have been to has been eating first. I am demanding the announcing of Mr and Mrs before we eat, but I probably will eat first. The DJ is playing dinner music....
I personally want to do the first dance first. It will give me a chance to have an intimate moment with my new husband before anything else. I don't think your guests will mind, it's only a few minutes long :)
We are eating then first dance but only because we are doing a special entrance with our bridal party. Otherwise I would've preferred the first dance right after the entrance, then eating, then more dancing.
I had thought about doing the dance first, but I think we're just going to eat and then boogie down.
Dance first. I don't want to worry about our choreography the rest of the night!
We did our grand entrance after the bridal party and went right into the first dance. After we were done with dance, we had the first course served. We were super nervous about our dance because some of it was choreographed so it was best to just get it out of the way and relax!
Oooh I haven't decided this yet...are there pros/cons to both options?
We're doing the first dance first. Since we want people to be able to dance as soon as they're done eating.
interesting post!
we're pretty locked into the order of events due to the set up of the space so ours will have to be after dinner and after the caterers remove the food display and tables from the dance floor :-)
goodheart, I'm in the same boat! We're going to have our first dance after dinner so the tables can be removed from the dance floor. Darn those small venues! But we're still going to do the bridal party and Mr./Mrs. announcement before dinner.
This is also a good option for us because we don't want to do the traditional father/daughter or mother/son dances, so we'll just kick off the dancing with our first dance, and that'll be it.
Now I have a question - how do you politely tell some guests that they need to vacate their tables so we can make room to dance? I'm planning on seating the younger people on the dance floor so I know they won't mind but should I put a sign on the table or something that warns them that their tables will be moved by a certain time?
I want to eat dinner first and then dance. Even though we've been taking dance lessons, I'm fine if people are mingling or talking during the first dance. I don't know that I want the big introduction when we walk in either, mostly because I don't like all the attention. Yet I'll be the only one wearing the long ivory dress, so chances are I'll attract attention anyway.
we aren't dancing at our wedding, but my friend just told me about her wedding and how she was sooo nervous about her first dance and that's all she thought about the whole time so once she got it over with she could relax. if that's your case, i'd do it first. but from a guests perspective... i always like to eat first!
I think if you have to remove tables that you can maybe have a DOC or a friend go and tell them once they are seated that at 8pm their tables will be broken down.
We're dancing first. I thought it was weird when the DOC mentioned it, but I'm glad to see others are doing it too! Also, the DOC told me it gives the kitchen a chance to prepare everything to be presented.
We're cutting the cake shortly after..during the salad course. Is that really weird??
We are cuting the cake after announcing (so it can get plated during dinner) then we will eat and do our dance as everyone else is still eating.
My DJ recommended dancing first actually. Since I had not thought much about it, we agreed.
I'm liking the idea of having the first dance first. I'll feel more beautiful dancing in front of everyone when my stomach isn't full of food! Not to mention, that can segway nicely into cutting the cake while people are still paying attention.
@elaineathon: You can mark the tables that need to be moved with a different colored centerpiece or something. Have the DJ announce after cake is served that those sitting at tables with the X-colored centerpieces have been nominated to form the ring around the happy couple as they dance their first dance. If possible, have their chairs pushed up against the wall, so they can sit down again if they need to.
@littlebug: Nope, cutting the cake during salads is pretty normal. Most of the venues I interviewed with said that's how they normally like to do things so they can get the cake cut and distributed before everyone leaves their places for the dance floor.
Great thread! We're having our first dance as soon as we get introduced and walk in. :) It's one less thing "to do" after dinner. It entertains guests as they wait for meals to be served and then when dinner is over, the dance floor is fair game for everybody!!!
Fiance and I are wedding dj's. Really there is no rule. It tends to be more common for the bride and groom to come in and do all their dances then eat. I think most B&Gs want to get the formal stuff over with as soon as possible. Personally as a B2B now I want the night to last as long as possible so we'll probably come in eat. Greet a few guests, then dance, then cut the cake, dance some more, then finsh off with the bouquet and garter toss then dance some more and leave. We're definately going to be using our 4hrs that's the norm for the reception. I've been engaged for 3yrs I've been waiting these whole 3yrs (just over a month from 4 when we wed in Jan) for that night, you better believe that we'll be enjoying every single second of it.
Definately before dinner after we enter the reception. Like others said, don't want to have a big meal before dancing, plus we can get done with it so everybody can start dancing after dinner!
We had our first dance soon after we were announced which was at the end of the cocktail hour.
hadn't even thought of this.. we are doing an iPod wedding-- thinking that we might do our first dance before we eat, then people can dance and eat as they choose without it being too formal.
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Is eating first more common?
I really want to get the first dance out of the way THEN eat - is that a no-no?