Post # 1
Ok I was thinking yesterday that I want to do something nice for our serving staff. Pay it forward ya know, they come into work, get a little thank you treat from us, and decide to go the extra mile at work that night…
am I crazy?? We’ve gone to great lengths to make the day personal, thoughtful, nice and fun for everyone, and I’d love if we could rub a little bit of that off on the servers. I’m sure they’re nice, I just haven’t met them before.
Anyone here been servers at weddings before? Would you like to, perhaps, get a little gift card to the delicious ice cream company that will be scooping ice cream for guests at the event you’re working? in conjunction with your cash tip?
Did you tip the serving staff before or after your event?
Post # 3
If gratuity isn’t included in the charge you’re paying, then you should really tip them after they’ve completed the service, so the amount of the tip can reflect how satisfied you are with them. I really like the idea of treating them to something before hand to set them in a good mood! I’m paying for all my vendors to get the same meal that my guests are getting, but I guess for the food serving staff that’s not very special. A gift card to the ice cream company sounds lovely! Sometimes even taking the time to meet them at the beginning of the night and shake their hands and thank them for being there is enough to show them how much you appreciate them!
Post # 4
We did not, because there was a 20% gratuity included. We did give some money to the bartender and a lady who was there from the venue to keep things running smoothly.
Post # 5
This is an old thread, but I wanted to bump it because it’s an excellent idea. I work for a club and we do indeed host weddings but I’m not a tipped employee – just as a disclaimer! 🙂
We have had couples that were nice and kind and they get excellent service from us because it’s our jobs and we get paid to do that (20% grat). We also have had couples that are a nightmare and they get the same great service that’s expected of us. Then there are the wonderful, friendly and really thoughtful people that go out of their way to be kind and spread their good karma out there and we jump through hoops of flames for their weddings, lol. You can’t help it! When you feel a connection with the person you are serving you feel invested in making their wedding extra special. It’s not so much a job anymore, it’s a notch above that. I’m not saying that we give preferential service to people that give us things (couples do give us things sometimes though and it is sweet and generous) only, I’m saying you can’t help wanting someone really nice and thoughtful to have the best day ever. Meeting the staff ahead of time, remembering a few names, shaking hands – goes a long way.
The ice cream gift card is super cute! We’ve gotten Dunkin’ Donuts giftcards, favors just for the staff (so easy to do, too – there always seems to be extra favors and the couple will call to find out how many employees will be working their wedding and then ask us to give each one a favor as a thank you), they’ve baked us cookies, brought in treats and (this is popular) told the staff ahead of time to please take any centerpieces or cocktail hour flowers after the wedding. It goes a long way in creating a ‘I’m so happy I’m working their wedding’ feeling instead of ‘I can’t wait til I get to go home tonight’ feeling that is normal after being on your feet carrying stuff around/serving/flipping rooms/cleaning for 10 hours 🙂