Post # 1
I know I have a bit of time before the wedding, but as I’m dealing with a lot of vendors who are asking questions, I really want to get some things hammered out so I can send my vendors concrete answers.
One of the big things I’m trying to figure out is the timeline for the reception. The reception will occur about an hour after the ceremony, and the hour between the two will be a cocktail hour with small appetizers and an open bar.
I’m trying to figure out if I want my fiance and I to dance our first dance as soon as we come in, or if we should wait for dinner? If we do our first dance right away, should we also do father/daughter and mother/son dances immediately following? Or should those wait until after dinner?
I’m also trying to figure out when to put in the cake cutting and bouquet toss. I’ve found that while many sites seem to suggest doing cake cutting and dances before the dinner, the weddings I’ve gone to have always done those after dinner.
I personally just want the day to flow as smoothly as possible, and I don’t want to bore the guests TOO much…
Thanks for any help Bees!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Cornmuffin09: I don’t know about the cake cutting … but I’ve read to do the cake cutting before dinner/just after which allows for the photos to be taken care of and then the people that want to leave can leave (apparently ettiquette-whise guests are supposed to stay until the cake is cut at least – this allows for older guests who aren’t good with staying up late to enjoy the before dancing part).
I personally plan on doing the dancing right after dinner/dessert. This allows for the majority of the traditions and the dancing opens up the dance floor for everyone else after. Not sure when I want to do the cake cutting. I was thinking of right after dessert but I am expecting our guests to be full after a cocktail hour with food followed by a four course dinner. I don’t think there is a wrong way to do it 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I just made some copies of a few of the spreadsheets/timelines they have on their site b/c I need to figure that stuff out as well!
Post # 5
as soon as everyone was seated at the recption, we did introductions which led to first dance and mother/daughter dance. salad was served during mother of the bride speech then dinner was served during MOH and Best Man speeches.
then we danced. our recption started at 8pm we did the anniversary dance and cake cutting around 10pm.
hope this helps.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@ajillity81: what time was your ceremony and was it at the same location?
Post # 7
ceremony started at 6:30, cocktail hour from 7-8.
yes, everything was at the same location.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We did our first dance as we were announced, so that the dance floor was “open.” Parent dances were later.
Post # 9
We are doing our inoductions then leading right into first dance, then cake cutting. We aren’t doing father/daughter or mother/son dances. Our coordinator made a good point which caused us to decide to cut our cake right away. If we do the cake cutting right away, then as soon as dinner s finished they can pass the cake out right away. That way no one has to sit around later and wait for it and possibly miss it while dancing or such.
Post # 10
@HisToots: That is exactly one of the reasons I want to do cake cutting ceremony earlier in the night, but it also feels weird to be introduced, and then cut cake. I’m not a huge fan of the parent dances, but his mom is, so we’re doing it because we like her and she has been such a doll our entire relationship.