Post # 1
I cant stop going over this in my head, and it would be nice to hear some feedback. To start, our wedding is taking place 45 minutes outside of town (for those that are from town) at a resort that faces the water. The ceremony is outside. The ceremony is set to start at 4:00 (check in is at 3, and although we would have preferred an earlier start time – since most people will be staying at the resort, we didnt want to have everyone stuck with no where to put their stuff! There is a beautiful place for pictures about 20 minutes away so we wanted time in between to go there with the wedding party to take some pictures. We have cocktails and snacks starting at 6 and dinner starting at 7:30. (its a buffet dinner)
Is that too long to ask people to wait around? we are hoping that some might like to come see where we’re taking pictures, or to go to their rooms to ‘freshen up’ in between.
what kind of appetizers would you expect to have during cocktail time?
we were thinking to do a couple of punches during the cocktail time as well, should we do that, and then offer wine with dinner? or just have the bar open and then do the wine with dinner? what is a good option for the liquor. the bar will be open but we are doing a cash bar.
Post # 3
How long is your ceremony going to be? Mine is an hour and we have almost three hours between our ceremony and reception, but the two are about 15 minutes drive apart and we have a lot of local guest. For our friends and family, that’s pretty normal. We’re offering suggestions of things to do during the downtime, but it sounds like your guests will be kinda stuck at the location since it is outside of town.
Think about the last time you were at a wedding in your circle of friends/family. How long did you have to kill time between the two? Did you think it was excessive? What about what your family/friends think? I would ask a few close people for their opinion. You aren’t going to make everyone happy, but if the people you are close with are cool with it, I think that’s pretty good.
We asked some of our cousins who live about an hour away about our downtime and they were okay with it. They said they usually use that time to go run and pick up a last minute card or more batteries, or whatever else they might need.
And as far as appetizers, we’re just doing cheese/crackers, veggies and one hot option we have yet to pick.
Post # 4
how set are you on the whole no-seeing-the-bride-before-the-wedding-thing? If it isn’t important you could take all your pictures before the ceremony (you’ll all be freshly done-up then, too), and then you could get the reception started earlier. I know, personally, I’ve been to a few weddings where the in between time was way too long, and people tend to get drunk a lot faster when that’s the case. but, ultimately, do what you think works best for you.