- Miss Beach
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I need some of your fabulous advice. My family and I are not seeing eye to eye on the timing and flow of our reception. We are getting married at a country club down at the beach. The ceremony will be outdoors overlooking the water and the reception will be inside the club house. We will have a bar inside and also outside on the patio, where there will be about 5 tables set up, in addition to the ones inside. It is a gorgeous location and view. We’ve really lucked out on the venue.
What I have invisioned is apparently different than what my parents are invisioning. They are paying for the wedding, therefore, their opinion is very important to me.
What we agree on: We all agree that following the ceremony, the guests will gather on the patio for cocktail hour. There will be passed horsdourves. We all agree that the set up during the reception should allow guests to freely mingle inside the ballroom and outside on the patio. We all want to have TONS of fun with lots of dancing, mingling, and drinking.
For food, we are having heavy hordourves set up buffet style, a prime rib carving station, a shrimp and grit station, and a pasta station. This will include more than enough food for this to be a very nice dinner for our guests.
What we don’t agree on: My parents are very traditional and believe that since we are not serving a plated dinner that we should have more of a cocktail reception instead of a sit down dinner. Basically, they want the food stations, buffet, and dance floor to stay open the entire time. They invision people dancing, eating, and drinking without much of a structured timeline. Maybe I am a control freak, but this is very unnerving to me. I have never been to a wedding like that. I invision cocktail hour ending, the bridal party being announced, having the first dance, and then everyone getting food and sitting down to eat together. Cake cutting and dancing to follow.
Has anyone ever been to a wedding reception like my mom and dad are talking about? Am I just being a control freak because I care about a timeline and everyone eating together? I met with our photographer last night and she has never seen a reception like that. We have our tasting at the country club on Friday and I need to come up with a plan before then.
Sorry for the long winded post… I just wanted to get all of the information out there! Thank you for all of your help and support!