Post # 1
please excuse the frequent postings (i am on my week of vacation and am going to smear myself all over the wb boards so i can kick wedding planning in the butt this week!). what was/is your timing for the flow of dinner and the first dance, mother/son dance, father/daughter dance, and cake cutting? i don’t want to interrupt the flow of the band too many times and i dont want to cut into people’s meals too much. i’d like to start with the first dance just after our entrance so we can get it out of the way, and then go into appetizers and toasts, but i’m not sure where to insert the father/daughter and mother/son dance or the cake cutting. we have a band playing for the first half of the reception and then a dj is taking over for the last half. my other concern is that i want to get all the photo moments over with during the first half of the reception because my photographer and videographer need to leave by then.
Post # 3
We are being introduced and walking in and cutting the cake right then. Our wedding planner suggested this – because everyone is standing around waiting for us to be introduced and so it made sense to do it while everyone is standing there. I know it is traditional to cut the cake later in the reception – i guess it signals to guests that they can leave, if they want to. But we are doing it this way.
Then we will all go sit down for toasts and have dinner. After dinner we will do the first dance and mother and father dances. This will start the dancing/partying part of the reception. Our wedding planner has done this before and said it has a nice flow to it….
But with your band staring the first part of the reception and then the DJ finishing – i’m not exactly sure. Maybe you could be introduced – walk in and do your dances. Then after dinner cut the cake and start the partying.
Post # 4
i haven’t worked out my flow yet…but in premliminary research i have found that you typically are announced. go into your first dance. eat and have toasts. then you can go into the parent/child dances and this can kick off the dancing for everyone. cutting the cake is usually the signal that the reception is nearing its end. but i am sure that could be flexible.
check out this link: http://www.a-wedding-reception.com/wedding-reception-order.html it gives a general outline to follow.
Post # 5
We were introduced, and went to our table and sat down and then there were toasts and we ate dinner, and at one point in dinner, we had a video playing with picturs of us. Then we cut the cake near the end of dinner, and while everyone was eating cake we did our first dance/parent-child dances and then everyone went into dancing.
This was what our DJ suggested, and I think it worked well. The suggestion above sounds good too.
Maybe you could do your cake-cutting at the end of dinner and while the cake is being passed out and eaten, go into your father-daughter/mother-son dance.
Post # 6
The way I’ve been thinking about doing it is cocktail hour first. When we get there we will be announced, and say a few words welcoming everyone. Then there will be a sit-down dinner. As it is wrapping up we’ll cut the cake and while people are eating have the champagne toasts during cake kinda as a dessert. This is a little different for us because we will have two spaces, one for dinner, then another for dancing. So after cake we’ll use the Grand March for everyone to move into the other room to begin the dancing, it’s fun and gets everyone to particpate. It ends in a large circle around the dance floor which is when we’ll do our first dance, then the father and mother dances, then everyone is invited to join in. There will still be cocktails and snacks if anyone gets hungry during dancing. Hopefully after an hour or two we’ll do the bouquet and garter throws which will be more of a signal for guests to leave if they need to than the cutting of the cake.
Post # 7
We have our cocktail hour, then parent and bridal party introductions
Then first dance, followed by toasts, and as the food is being served father daughter/ mother son dance and eating. Around 915 we’ll do the cake cutting, and while the cake is being cut in the back we’ll do the garter and bouquet toss and follow up dance, that way people can eat cake and head home, if they so choose
Post # 8
We did the cake cutting right after they cleared the dinner plates as it’s a logical flow to then have the cake for dessert.
Then as the caterer is cutting up the cake and serving it, we did the father/daughter dance, mother/son dance during the same song. You can pick a song that’s appropriate for both relationships. Some people want to do two separate dances, and that’s perfectly fine if you want the spotlight separate for each. We felt it was fine to do both at the same time, as it’s an awfully big dance floor for just two people!
Since you have the four of you out there for the sentimental moment, it’s perfect for the DJ to then lead into a more fun song and invite people out to the floor to start the party. The key four people will already be out on the floor which will get people out there.
You can then flow into garter/bouquet toss and lead into the the rest of the party, because most will be done with dessert by then. Have fun!
Post # 9
I like your idea loveletter! I have read through numerous lists of events where the first dance is separate from the rest of the dancing, and it just seems odd to me. Glad to see a nice option that (IMO) flows a little better. And we are having a band, rather than a DJ, so they really prefer to play sets rather than stopping and starting every couple of songs.