- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Since getting engaged last month, I’ve cycled through many different visions of what I picture our wedding to be. The only constants have been that it will be next September, and that it will not be a huge affair. We always figured 60 people max. We looked at several different venues– everything from modern chic hotels, to industrial-type loft spaces, to a barn on a blueberry farm. Of course they were all lovely in their own ways, but nothing was perfect. Too big, too small, too much work, too far away… but mostly, way too expensive.
All along I knew that I wanted to keep things as inexpensive as possible, without giving up a few key things (namely booze and chow :)). We have healthy savings, but I was still having a hard time justifying the cost when I crunched the numbers on each venue. Plus we want to start a family right after we get married, but will need to pursue IVF in order to do that, and obviously that’s expensive too. :-/ Because of all this, wedding planning was becoming more stressful than enjoyable. Plus a lot of the venues I contacted were booking up for September and I felt pressure to make a decision, which made it worse.
In the end, I had a full-blown sobfest about the state of our wedding planning. We had all but decided on an awesome venue (Blueberry Dune Farm in LaPorte, IN for those ladies in the area. It’s really cool!) But the costs were just going up and up, and my small, inexpensive wedding was feeling pretty bloated and pricey.
So I made a decision. I thought we were having a small wedding before with 60 guests. Well, I’ve slashed that number in half. Now we are only inviting very close family and friends. Because of this, we’re now able to fit into a venue I fell in love with initially that was too small to truly fit our party– The Boulevard Inn & Bistro in St. Joseph, MI. It’s only $75 to rent a room that will comfortably seat 36 guests AND it has a beautiful balcony with lake views for a cocktail hour. This is not to mention that we’ll be wining and dining half as many people, which costs half as much money.
I honestly feel such relief at this point. It still won’t be an inexpensive wedding. I’m hoping to keep it under $4500 including everything but the honeymoon. But it’s so much easier to accept than the $10k+ I was looking at spending before. And I will still have everything that I wanted in a wedding– namely that whole gettin’ hitched part!–and none of the stuff I didn’t ever want in the first place but felt was necessary (DJ, I’m looking at you.).
Have any other bees dramatically pared down their wedding? How did it go? I’ve read some great stories here and elsewhere, but I’d love to hear more! I’m just so happy now that I have a venue and a plan that really feels like US. 🙂 Tell me about your small wedding and how it was perfect for YOU!
Edited to add TL/DR: The price of my wedding was already giving me serious anxiety, so I downsized, booked a venue, and am now super excited! Tell me about your small wedding! 🙂