(Closed) Reception? VERY awkward GERMAN BAPTIST family situation What would you do?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think its always polite to invite, and since you know their beliefs and practices, you can pre warn them ahead of time about your choices, so there be no offense.

Perhaps you can also have a small ceremony for your German Baptist family that is extremely plain and to their standards if you feel as though your family is missin out. Or maybe you don’t wish to have them be apart. Its up to you!

Post # 4
46219 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My first husband’s parents were very conservative and anti-alcohol although not to the extreme of your parents’ church.

We solved the problem by having an afternoon ceremony followed by a tea reception.

The official recpetion ended after that as far as the non-drinkers were concerned.

The families arranged groupings for dinner at their own choice of restaurants.They enjoyed the opportunity to get together with relatives from out of town. The wedding party and our younger friends who had travelled for the wedding had dinner together in a private room at the same hotel where we held the tea.

The guests who were less strict about alcohol and dancing received a separate reception invitation for a dance that evening at the hotel.

A good and appropriate time was had by all.

Post # 7
46219 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The ceremony was at 2 pm in our church. The tea was from 2:30-4:30

After the other guests left the reception, the rest of us went to the lounge in the hotel for a couple of drinks before dinner.

Dinner was at 6 and the dance started at 8.

No one was offended. The non-drinkers wouldn’t have wanted to be invited nor would they have attended if they were.

Post # 8
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

In your case, I might suggest two ceremonies and/or receptions. You can honor your parents and do it their way first, then go ahead and do your wedding and reception your way-but maybe on a smaller scale.

Post # 9
1 posts

Andrea174 :  This is an old post but I was hoping someone would have advised you to forsake your life and follow Jesus. No, it not all about you and your day. It’s about Jesus. He says to honor your mother and father. Your not doing that. Your living in rebellion to them and to God. I don’t know a lot about your parents religion but I do know the Bible. If you love the world or the things in the world your not a Christian (1 John 2:15-17). Jesus said you must be born again, born of the Spirit (John 3). You clearly have not forsake your life as Jesus commands us to do. I have to say, I even worry for your parents true salvation to have raised a daughter that is so bible ignorant. 

Post # 10
46219 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

turn2jesus :  Please take your proselytizing elsewhere.

Post # 11
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

turn2jesus :  I’m going to assume you’re a troll and not a very sad person digging through five-year-old posts looking to chastise someone for not practicing their faith properly. If you’re the latter, please re-evaluate your priorities. 

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