Post # 1
Needs some honest opinions ….
We are doing destination wedding to Jamaica. Fiance and I are only having 30 guest and about 50% of them are older family members. They way our resort works, you pay for the wedding package but it doesnt include reception. Its only for the ceremony and things for bride/groom. We tried to price out a reception – dinner, drinks, music, entertainment, and decor and it was way out of our budget.
The coordinator offered instead of renting a banquet room and going over budget, to rent out a private room in the most beautiful restaurant on the grounds. The restaurant is gorgeous, food is FANTASTIC and its away from the hotel (out on the golf course) and its private. Since the restaurant is included on the all in clusive package, we would only have to pay to rent the room. The decor, food and music all comes with the restaurant already.
The only downfall is, there will be no dance floor. Fiance and I dont dance or drink really at all, we are only having a few friends there, so do we really need dancing?
I have never been to a DW so I am not sure if cutting out the dancing is an issue.
Any opinions ladies?
tacky or understandable?
Post # 3
These resort weddings are tricky like that. If i were in your exact position, I would have the dinner in a private room, so you didn’t feel self conscious when your uncle stands up to tell an embarrasing story about you to a bunch of strangers at the buffet! haha. Then after dinner, dessert and coffee, move on to the bar / disco area with the rest of the guests. The drinkers and dancers can do that, and you can socialize freely.
Post # 4
I think a lot of people don’t really like to get out there and dance sometimes. I think for your guests, just being there in the company of you and your fiance and being able to attend your destination wedding is special in itself. I definitely feel that people would enjoy your reception whether there was dancing or not!
Post # 5
There are plenty of bars on the resort. I just figured that since the ceremony is at 5pm and the dinner is at 6:30pm, i doubt the older family members will want to be up all night drinking anyway. When they are done with dinner, they can head back to the hotel and us and our friends can hit the bars and club on the resort.
It just sounds so odd to me to not have any dancing at a wedding. lol
Post # 6
I think the nice dinner sounds fine. If nobody’ll dance, what’s the point? It could be more like a cocktail reception…more loungy and less like a party. They’ll probably want to spend time with you, anyways. I totally wouldn’t worry about it. Good food, a few drinks, and a beautiful location…they’ll be fine= ]
Post # 7
I think dinner = reception. Dancing does not make a reception. It sounds lovely, go for it.
Post # 8
I had a DW in Maui with the same number of guests as you. I didn’t have dancing at my reception, and it wasn’t missed. If you really feel the need to have dancing, maybe you could invite the younger guests to go to a club at the resort for an afterparty and get your dancing in there.
Post # 9
the private dining room sounds like a fantastic alternative. since you and your hubby don’t dance, i wouldn’t worry about there not being a dancefloor. for those who like to dance, there are plenty of bar/louges at resorts that will give them a chance to boogie.
Post # 10
dinner definitely equals reception! we are having a DW in Florida with only 20 guests and we opted for a dinner at a restaurant versus a traditional reception. So no dancing or having to worry about intense decor, just fun times with drinks and good food!
Post # 11
i am so relieved to hear that other brides have done/are doing the same thing! thanks so much ladies, i feel much better about our decision.
elle- Wedding in Maui! i bet that was BEAUTIFUL!
whfields- florida wedding? sounds so much fun! where at in fl?
Post # 12
@MrsCox28: We have done the exact same thing!
We had our ceremony at 4:00, then pics with our guests. Then we sent the guests off to the nicest bar until our 6:00 dinner and took off to take some beach pictures of the two of us. We joined the group at 6:00, had a nice dinner.
After, the older folks went to bed, we went to our room and changed into more casual clothes and had drinks at the bar with our friends.
We didn’t want to have a dance floor for such a small group – we saw people do the reception thing, and it looked a bit weird, having a dance floor and all for like, 20 people…
It was simple, lots of fun; and I definitely don’t think it’s tacky!
Post # 13
Orlando – we’re getting married at Disney. So we get to take advantage of some great restaurants in the area!