Post # 1
So we’re getting down to the real details. Not just ideas, real things are happening!
Anyway, the venue that we picked is fairly cheap ($450 for the whole day), which is one of the main reasons we picked it. It’s also large enough for us and has some really beautiful vintage/antique details.
Our guest list right now is about 150, but we expect only about 100 to show up (because many of them are out of towners).
I really really want my reception to be a big fun party. My FI and I are young and like to dance and have fun. Same with a lot of our friends and family.
I’ve put a lot of time into deciding music that would be fun to dance to and would make for a good party. However, my family isn’t a big dance group, unless there is a little bit of alcohol involved.
BUT I dont’ think we can afford to have alcohol at the wedding. Not only is it another $150 deposit, but also another $50 to the rental price AND we are required to have policemen at the event at $30/hour. Then you add the cost of alcohol….oh boy.
I’ve read lots of threads/posts too that dry wedding are just boring. I really dont’ want that…
what do you think? Boring?
Post # 3
Does your venue/caterer have the option to bring your own alcohol, or use only beer/wine instead of a full bar? That could help limit costs.
Also, depending on where you live and what is socially acceptable in your area you could consider a cash bar. People always speak badly of them on here, but in some regions it is perfectly fine.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t say it’s boring…I have been to plenty of events without alcohol and have a great time. But, I am not a great dancer and a few cocktails definetly helps get me on the dance floor 🙂
If you have a good crowd that has fun without drinking, and a great DJ, then you’ll be fine!
Post # 5
My fiance and I decided to do wine and beer only for the reception (with a cash bar for other alcoholic drinks). Perhaps this would work for your wedding too.
Post # 6
I personally find dry weddings somewhat boring. There’s only been 1 that I went to that the guests seem to have alot of fun, and stayed late at that. So in my opinion, yes dry weddings can be boring.
There are ways you can make it more fun, but I’m not sure if you could pull it off in an actual venue. [lawn games & things for your guests to do are always a hit – don’t see that working out in a building though].
I personally wanted an open bar, it’s going to cost more than what I was planning on, but the reception is mainly for our guests, and I know our guests would enjoy some drinks.
Post # 7
@thisorderistall: could you do a cash bar?
Post # 8
@W292737: We’d still have to pay the alcohol fees for the venue though. Plus a bartender, right?
Post # 9
@Kit_Kath: I’ll look into the cost. I actually hadnt really thought of that. The other problem is the costs of just hsving alcohol in the building. Our venue is in an old post office in a town that *used* to be a dry county. Its not anymore, but I think they just kept the old rules. Do you know how I’d get a cash bar not through the venue?
Post # 10
@thisorderistall: for where I am having mine the cash bar is free to us, so long as the proceeds do not go under a certain dollar per hour average. and it’s low like $75 an hour, so basically 15-20 drinks, and with our crowd that isn’t hard to hit. then there is no charge to us, if we drop below that average then it’s a nominal fee.
Post # 11
@W292737: Hmm, I’ll have to look into this then. Still not sure how to get one…