Post # 1
We are having destination wedding to Vegas. That being said-I am very particular that it is classy. I have a specific vision for an intimate wedding (30 people max) -meaning spending a lot on dress, ceremony etc… Even though money IS an issue It really is not Because I have now fallen in to the thinking.. My one day, pics forever, want what I want etc…so ceremony Etc… Is cool. It’s the reception I am having a hard time with.
Please answer this like you were a guest and also (if different) if you were a Vegas tourist seeing us…
Ideally I would like a private room with only my party and have a plated dinner, cake, my own designs possibly on the tables With a photographer to capture “reception” photos. Maybe even our song playing for a semi first danceish thing.
1st problem. We are both vegetarian and I do not want to select meat entrees options on my “wedding menu” which most restaurants with private rooms require for parties over 20. It just feels wrong. I also do not want to ask 20+ people to spend tons of money to come to our wedding and have to go “veg” for the night. Especially when our theme is French and French cuisine is very meat-seafood etc…( not like we could offer awesome pastas without meat like we could for an Italy theme).
The feedback I have heard from family is go for the buffet. They have a semi private room and I even though we are paying, I am not saying you must eat a. Veg meal or b. steak. I feel like this option would actually make the guests a lot more happy but be less of my vision. They can still do the cake and I would still bring my photographer but I cannot imagine being in tux or dress on buffet line with everybody else. Don’t get me wrong though because there is nothing wrong with a buffet but I know I will not feel comfortable next to jeans and tshirt guy staring at me. Ugh this phone! Excuse my bad writing!
Buffet is French theme and 55$ pp incl beer, bloody Mary’s other drinks cannot remember.
Restaurants are french theme and vary 60-110 pp no alchohal and they have room minimums Which is not a problem.
so what would you want As a guest? Or what would u think of us next to you in a buffet line?
typing this badly on phone and hopefully I’m making sense:) thanks bees!
Post # 3
I honestly think it’s Vegas…live it up and do what YOU want. For people eating, I definitely think some will want meat instead of only vegetarian choices. If you do the buffet though, I don’t think you will have this totally elegant meal and if that’s what you want, it probably won’t work. I really wouldn’t care what anyone outside of your party thinks…just have fun!
Post # 4
@soinlove79: I don’t want this to come off wrong, I completely understand that you’re vegetarian and people shouldn’t give you problems about that, that’s your choice. However, it’s also your guest’s choice to eat meat.
That being said. I’m torn on what you should do. Give the guests a meat option and the semi-private dinner or get the private room and plated dinner? I think I would hands down chose the private room, especially in Vegas. I just keep thinking what weirdo is going to try and crash your wedding. Not that it’s going to happen but I guess maybe give the meat or veg only option? I think it would be weird to go to the same buffet as a bunch of randoms, but that’s just me!
Post # 5
@soinlove79: I’m a little confused. You’re okay with offering meat in a buffet, but not plated? I think you should do a plated meal in a private room because it seems to be more in line with your vision. However, I think that offering a meat option would be nice for your guests. You don’t have to eat it or prepare it. And maybe some will choose the veg option anyway.
If you choose not to offer a meat option, I would at least tell your guests ahead of time. I know I appreciate knowing what I will be eating so that if I’m not interested (or can’t – gluten issues) in eating what’s there I can eat beforehand.
Post # 6
@soinlove79: I think you can do the buffet in vegas any time for any reason and it would be much more special to do a sit down dinner. Is there a way you could ask the restruarunt to do a dual veg dish? (Ex. egg parm and pene ala vodka on one plate) that would cost the same as a meat dish but not include meat. I think you could also do an elegant cocktail reception (and lots of finger foods can be veg) with the dance and cake and do an afterparty at the buffet with a dif less weddingish get up and that would be a nice combo of both
Post # 7
It sounds like you’re leaning towards the plated meal, and it sounds lovely. If you want to do a veg meal, do – I think most people would be fine giving up meat for one night; I know I would. For some weddings I’ve been to, the veg options looks more delicious than some of the chicken! But, you know your guests best. If the guest list is only 30, you probably have the best sense about whether they’d be annoyed that one meal out of all the ones they’ll eat in Vegas is meatless.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t be offended if I had to eat a vegetarian dinner. They’re spending money to be there for your special day and it’s only ONE meal, no one will care. Go with what you want! They get to spend the rest of their time there gambling and doing whatever they want right? It’s like a mini vacation for your guests so don’t feel bad.
Post # 9
thanks for input bees! I like idea of private room and I know there is meat on a buffet but I don’t feel as if I am endorsing the meat if that makes sense. Like at the plated meal I will have a pre-selected menu where me or fiancé will actually be picking a. Fish b. chicken c. Steak. I just don’t feel comfortable selecting which animal people can choose. The buffet would be ideal for guest selection but not for atmosphere. And private room would be opposite -Ideal atmosphere without ideal food. At the end of the day though I’d like my guests to really enjoy their meal and not be roaming Vegas for a cheeseburger… I’m leaning toward private room I think and maybe I can let someone who eats meat pick their option??? And I thought Vegas would be easy lol
Post # 10
Everything sounds lovely, but if I were you I’d definitely go for the buffet. No matter how much I might love you as a guest, if I am flying all the way out to Vegas I at least want a chicken option. You’re asking them to come a long way for you–which is fine! I don’t know of too many people who would object that vehemently to vegas unless they were quite religious or cash was tight–but maybe you could meet them halfway and at least offer some meat options.
Then again, as I detest broccoli, eggplant, potatoes and tofu, I may have a little less tolerance for typical vegetarian options than most.
Post # 11
@soinlove79: If you don’t have meat on the menu, what do you imagine the menu would be? I think definitely go for the private room, but I’m curious about what you think the menu would be.
Post # 12
i agree definitely people can go without for one meal but I am pretty sure 1/2 of guests are meat and potatoes type And would like them to be as happy as possible. I am also looking at general menus so maybe they can custom more things?
Post # 13
I would do plated and give your guests 2-3 options if possible. Chicken is a fairly standard choice and steak a little more upscale. As a guest though I would be very displeased if it was only vegetarian options as I hardly ever eat anything but meat (not even salads or vegtables).
Post # 14
I guess I was thinking soufflé, savory crepes, some yummy potatoes, unique starter salads, nice veggies… Baked Brie ..
Post # 15
@soinlove79: What kind of starter salads? Here is my thinking: the consensus here seems to be to have a private space for your reception/party. However, you have another question: what to serve. So, make a detailed menu of what you’d want, and have people vote: “Would you be fine with this vegetarian food?” Then you can get a response about that.
From what you said, it sounds great, by the way!
Post # 16
@soinlove79: As a guest my prefernce would be to go with the private room/private space option and to allow for meat enter options for the guests.
A private space will make speaches/toast work much better and will generally feel more festive. If you want to do something at a big Vegas buffet I’d suggest the rehersal dinner which is less formal.