Post # 1
I plan on having a cocktail style reception and no formal seating. Not all the guests will ever be sitting at any one time except the ceremony. But I also hate recieving lines. They’re boring for everyone and make photography timing hard.
I know these are the two easiest ways to make sure that you get around and thank every guest individually, and that is important to me. We will also be doing a couples thank you toast after the cake is cut, but I still want to thank everyone individually. Does anyone have any suggestions? Or do I need to just paste a smile on my face and do the recieving line?
Post # 3
Posting to hear opinions, I seriously don’t want to do one either. My mom will probably faint dead away if I don’t though
Post # 4
Maybe you can do a signature cocktail and pass them out with your DH instead of a receiving line? Or maybe you can pass the cake to each guest so you know you see everyone.
Or just be sure to mingle with everyone during the reception.
Post # 5
@AllyV0621: We are doing pretty much the same thing for our reception and I just plan to try and make my rounds. I also hate receiving lines and didn’t even consider it as an option. One option I read about in the past was having a conversation seat across from you and your husband, so that guests can come up to you instead of you going to them. I doubt this would work for our style reception, or at all (would people even participate with that?), but maybe reading about new ideas will inspire your own solution.
Depending on the size of your guestlist, I really believe you can manage to make the rounds successfully. We are estimating an attendance of 75-100. Even if you miss someone, you can chat them up after the honeymoon to make up for the oversight.
Post # 6
I’ve been in six weddings not including my own and have been a guest at at least ten other weddings in the last five years and have never witness or been part of a receiving line. All the couples went around to the tables.
Post # 7
In all the weddings I’ve been a part of I’ve never seen a receiving line. I think it’s become a very outdated thing, esp. if your wedding not as formal (ie. you’re not marrying into the royal family).
Post # 8
I’ve never actually been to a wedding with a receiving line. Just try to mingle with everyone during the evening.
Post # 9
I’ve been to a couple of weddings where the bride and groom usher everyone out after the ceremony. Similar to a receiving line, but everyone gets to sit until the couple comes to say thanks. I’ve been to another where there wasn’t a rexeiving line or table visits, and I left feeling like I was just there as an extra gift. I think it would depend on your guest list. Too many and receiving lines take forever. But at least that way you get to speak to everyone.
Post # 10
We did an “optional” receving line after the ceremony. I call it optional b/c we encouraged our friends (and anyone else who wanted to) to skip it and it was more to greet extended family and our parents’ friends. We had a 325 person wedding, with probably 175-200 or so at the ceremony, and it took us about 25 minutes for the line. I’m actually glad we did it b/c timing got messed up and we weren’t able to greet everyone individually at the reception dinner like we wanted. So, this way we still said “hi” and thanked a number of guests. If you can pull it off as optional and very casual (read: quick) I’d say do it. Surprisingly, I would’ve regretted not doing it after the fact knowning now how the night played out. I feel bad we didn’t personally say hello to everyone.
Post # 11
Just mingle. Nobody will be miffed that there wasn’t a receiving line! We didn’t have one, nobody cared.
Post # 12
@gollum: my mom loves em too n may faint if I don’t have one lol. I hate them personally
Post # 13
We did a receiving line because FI wanted it. I was definitely not for it to begin with (only receiving lines I’d ever experienced were for funerals/viewings), but it turned out OK. It was a way to introduce parents to each others friends and families. So for example, as some of FI’s extended family came through his mom could introduce them to my mom, FI could introduce some of them to me that I hadn’t met, etc. We had about 100 guests and it took about 20-25 minutes (some people were very chatty).
During the dinner I did go around to each table to thank everyone for coming and check in and make sure everyone was doing OK (got the right meal, etc).
Post # 14
@AllyV0621: We opted not to eat dinner and used that time to make our way to all the tables. We had 250 guests and managed to get through all the tables. We were so glad that we got to greet everyone and say thank you.