Post # 1
Basically, my parents are divorced and his are not. My parents do not get along. We’ve decided we’d like the his daughter who will be 13 years old to stand in the recieving line as well. This is the order we’ve come up with. Is this acceptable?
Mother of the Bride
Parents of the Groom
Father of the Bride
Matron of Honor
Daughter of Groom
My other question is my father has remarried and its been close to 5 years and I am 30. I don’t feel like I need her in the recieving line and my mother is super senstitive about her. Do I have to include her in the line?
Post # 3
Do you have to have a receiving line? I think they’re sorta awkward, as a guest….it could help diffuse some bad feelings if you just walk around to all the tables and don’t bother; then yo uowuldn’t have them close to each other.
And no, i don’t think you should include your dad’s wife if you don’t know her or are comfortable with her. My FIL has been remarried for 10 years or so and we didn’t do anything with her (despite the fact she’s TECHNICALLY his step mom) because she’s never been a part of his life. His dad hasn’t much, either, but sitll.
Post # 4
I’m with ejs4y8 – just don’t have a receiving line. I don’t like going through them as a guest either – it’s just kind of awkward (especially if you’re a friend of the B&G and don’t know either set of parents). I think your guests would it enjoy it much more if you just skipped the receiving line and made the effort to go around to each table during dinner to talk with everyone.
Post # 5
It would be super easy to get away without a recieving ling. Just make sure you hit up each table at the reception. That way you don’t even have to think about the order/awkwardness!
Post # 6
We made it easy, the only people in the “receiving line” was us. If you wanT to include his daughter that would be fine too.
My FIL is mentally ill. We weren’t even sure he’d make it through the ceremony. So we had the parents stand in another part of the church. That way my SIL could take him out if necessary and people could still come up and talk to everyone if they wanted. Our groomsmen were busy making sure everyone had directions to the reception and the bridesmaids were sort of chattig with people, making sure I didn’t need anything and all that jazz.
Post # 7
My thoughts are you shouldn’t do a receiving line and instead, you and your FI should go to each table at the reception and thank everyone. I honestly didn’t know people still did receiving lines lol. Good luck!!
Post # 8
I think you should do a receiving line and your line up is just fine. You should also plan on going around to all the tables. All the guests came to see you and those are two opportunities to visit with everyone in attendance. You could also set it up so that your mom is at the beginning of the line and your dad is at the end of the line. I think that you might want to consider that your stepmother might be near your dad even if she’s not in the line up, and that as his spouse your guests might like to greet her! The whole point of a receiving line is to allow the guests to momentarily greet and thank the hosts of the wedding, meet the parents of the other side of the wedding, and talk briefly with the bride and groom!!!
Post # 9
DH and I just went around to each table. My sister and her husband had just themselves in the line, which was cool. Oh and me behind her holding her gigantic dress off the dirty pavement, so I was kind of there too!
As a guest, I prefer the bride and groom come to my table.
Post # 10
I think the order of your receiving line is fine. Are you close to your step-mother? If so, you might want to include her next to your dad on the opposite side of your FI’s parents. If you aren’t concerned as much about her feelings, then leave her out!
Post # 11
Just wanted to add…if your stepmother is anything like mine, she will place herself right in that line. Does she know enough people to keep herself occupied somewhere else in the backround?
I also wonder if maybe your dad should come somewhere else…the groom’s parents in between your seems so obvious a barrier. Perhaps put FI’s daughter immediately before you and your dad next to his new son in law?
Post # 12
I agree with most of the other posts, that you should just skip the receiving line. As a guest, I prefer having the B&G come mingle at our table as opposed to waiting in a line to quickly congratulate you. Also, it can be awkward if you don’t know the rest of the family in the receiving line.
Post # 13
I vote no receiving line… I think they are awkward as well and take you away from being able to enjoy the reception. Just walk around and visit as you are able.
Post # 14
I think you have a few options (some of which have been mentioned):
1. Have the receiving line as you have it now
2. Just have you, your husband, and his daughter
3. Mingle around the tables later
Personally, I would prefer 2 or 3 depending on what you want and how your timeline is set up. I agree that it can be awkward if you don’t know the families and really just want to say congrats to the bride and groom.
Post # 15
Thanks for all of your opinions!
I guess to start off with-his family is very traditional and wants the receiving line and really no big deal! We just plan on doing it during cocktail hour and we’ll make sure our bridal party makes sure we’ve had some app’s and a couple of drinks while talking to everyone. It’s a fairly easy way to keep them happy and give them something they want! And my Fiance and I want this as well.
My step-mom’s two children will be there they are 30 and 28 as well as her grandchild. I am sure she’ll find something to do. She is okay with this completely and understands. Plus she’ll have the opportunities to mingle with my family and help keeping us well hydrated!
His daughter, on the other hand, wants to hang out with her cousins and I told her to talk to her father who insists that she be in the line. That said, I know that once she gets the attitude he’ll be sending her off for a break!
The order is really the hardest thing to figure out! I’ve tried my mother, FIL’s, us, daughter, and my dad and it seems ackward to me…the only option i have is my mom, maid of honor, my dad, us, daughter best man and FIL’s..but this two seems ackward! It’s just so hard to please everyone …. I haven’t spoken to my parents about this but I might jsut see if they’d be okay with standing side by side!