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Husband and I are 3 months pregnant, but I'm already worried about us having different ideas about parenting. Our childhoods were very different. I was raised in a home with very strong (some would say extreme) morals and etiquette. I was expected to be perfectly behaved at all times. Husband, OTOH, grew up in a very lax home. His parents were rarely around to supervise and the kids did whatever they wanted. His family has very loose ethics (for example, his dad regularly takes large quantities of lab supplies home from work) and abhor etiquette.

Hubs and I have managed to get closer in the middle, but he has already mentioned things about parenting that make me worried, like that he expects our kids to beat each other up all the time. I mean, I get that siblings quarrel, but I think the goal at least should be to teach them to be respectful and kind.

Can anyone recommend a parenting book that focuses on establishing a parenting philosophy, that will help us get on the same page?

i would love some recommendations too! It occured to me that I am reading up a lot on how to take care of a baby but not on how to raise a child.  my husband and i grew up in HHs somewhat similar to you smmcdowell, although both were less extreme versions.