Post # 1
Hi, I am new to the boards and this is my first posting. I have been engaged for about a month and my Fiance and I began discussing wedding ring options. I’m not a materialistic, bling-hungry woman (I’m over the moon for my aquamarine and diamond ering).
He has a good friend who purchased a bridal set for his gf. She was a spoiled little brat and completely flipped her shit and left him because it wasnt up to her standards. My FI’s friend is willing to sell the wedding ring to us at a very good price. I haven’t seen the ring yet but I know its a simple white gold and diamond band. We are just starting out our lives together and are on a fairly tight budget so this seems like a good option.
I’m just a little worried, I guess, that I will be reminded of our friends failed engagement when i see my ring. If it was a situation that ended amicably I don’t think Id have as much concern, but it was an extremely ugly situation for our friend and his family. I don’t want to hang out with our friend and his family and make them uncomfortable with this reminder on my finger.
Have any of you recieved recycled rings? If so were you able to work through those apprehensions (if you had any)? Am I just over-thinking this?
Thanks for reading. I’m just starting to navigate the wedding process and it’s a little overwhelming at times!
Post # 3
Not only will you be reminded of her and the situation surrounding the break-up, but so will your friend every time he sees it on your finger. He needs to sell it to a stranger, IMO, not to a friend where he’ll have the constant reminder.
Post # 4
You don’t want that on your finger, you will be reminded of their situation every time.
Our close friend gave his fiance/wife/now divorced ex an emerald cut diamond, and I couldn’t/wouldn’t even look at emerald cuts while we were shopping for rings. Even though before I thought they were a gorgeous cut , I basically throw up just looking at them because now I think of how horrible their marriage was and everything that happened between them.
Post # 5
My ring wasn’t “recycled” per se, but I know that the setting (the stone is heirloom) came from a particular store because my fiance’s brother had recently gotten un-engaged and the store would only give him house credit for the ring he wanted to return. They worked something out so my fiance paid his brother or some such arrangement. So in a way, my ring was kind of born out of a failed engagement ring.
I don’t care really. I knew the brother’s ex-fiance (she introduced us) and it was not a pretty situation, the break-up. But that was them and this is us. The brother lives with us and he knows (obviously) that my ring kind of came from the one he returned. He doesn’t care.
That said, if it was the brother’s ex’s ACTUAL ring, I don’t think I’d go for it. Is there a store-credit return option for your fiance’s friend? Maybe they could make a similar arrangement. His friend could get some money from your fiance, and your fiance could use his store credit, and everyone wins.