- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2016
My wedding has been nothing but one big dilemma after the other (mostly brought upon myself), and this current one is no exception. Honestly, Italy sounds great right now. Me in a white flowy dress, my FI in a handsome suit, standing on some hillside in Tuscany, reciting vows. Anyway…back to reality…
Summary: Original wedding date — November 26th, 2011. Recently decided to postpone for various reasons, but mainly to allow time to work through some issues we’d been having, to aptly plan for our future marriage and to focus on what’s most important in this planning process: our union (somewhere between linens and wrist corsages, we lost sight of the real reason for the season). We’ve made INCREDIBLE progress and want nothing more to get married now after smoothing out our differences, making some compromises, planning our future. Throughout this process of rebuilding, I personally made a big leap in my own life, and decided to go back to school in Spring 2012, which I’m really excited about… but it’s an expense that we ABSOLUTELY had NOT originally budgeted for previously when STD’s for the original date went out a year ago.
We are currently working on re-setting a new date (not a small feat), and realized through this whole thing that we really just want a more intimate wedding, with IMMEDIATE family, and our bridal party. Not JUST for financial reasons, but mainly because it’s just more of what we want, honestly. We’ve learned a lot about ourselves and each other as a couple over the past few months, and an enormous wedding just isn’t on that list anymore. We’ve reviewed the guest list, and limiting it to just immediate family and bridal party, it would cut the count from 182 to 88.
Friends and family have been incredibly supportive of our decision to postpone, so what I’m wondering is, what is the best way to handle setting a new date and working within these new budget constraints without having to promise our first born child to Rumplestilzkin in exchange for gold because we’re bankrupt/holding the wedding on some remote island on Christmas Day so as to discourage 50% of the guests to RSVP “yes” to reach a desirable head count? (hahah bit of humor). But seriously, if we reduce the original guest list, is there a way to do it without offending people? We are changing our venue as well as the date — given our relationship, financial, and now spatial complications, would guests be sympathetic to our need and desire to have a more intimate wedding? And how do you explain something like this?
How would you handle it if you were caught between a rock and a hard place?
Thanks so much, friends. 🙂