Post # 1
I’m looking for a general encyclopedic reference book for marriage ceremony traditions, non-Christian. Stuff like the Celtic knot and the Hindu flower chain, even the Hora, with their original meanings.
FI and I are going to have a secular ceremony and hate being the center of attention. I thought if we could find something cool to do and a little unusual (and with no chauvenist undertones).
Anyone know of one? I know I could go to a library, but strangely, there aren’t actually very many books in our city library.
Post # 3
I know there is something called the salt covenant (like the unity sand) where the two of you have seperate ‘vessels’ of salt and you take salt from each other and put them into a new ‘vessel’. Just like you can’t physically seperate the salt once they are mixed you cant seperate the union between you and your new husband. idk where this comes from but I have seen it done before. The Nigerians have alot of wedding traditions that are easy to incorporate into a ceremony!
Post # 4
I have a book called Project Wedding that has a lot of that sort of stuff in it.
Post # 5
I wish I had a site to direct you to. We had a secular ceremoy and our officiant sent us about 30 pages (printed) of options. We are non religious and even DH didn’t think the whole “obey” for the wife worked unless it was for the husband also. And neither of us are “center of attention” types (I was worse, “you’re getting me up there, don’t expect me to talk!”). My best advice would be find a good secular officiant and they will have a wealth of info for you! Ours sent all the “options” and would still do custom from scratch ceremonies if the couple wanted but we found what we wanted in what she sent, even if we did mix and match.
We spent a couple evenings going over the stuff the officiant sent, highlighed parts we liked, discussing, and built our own ceremy from that. We didn’t say anything ourselves but “I do”. But what she sent us had a variety of options for things like you mention, we just didn’t use them.
And for us it was just us, until after the kiss, we turned around and it was like “OMG all these people are gawking at us!”… but then we went on to food, etc, so it was all good. 🙂