Refusing to rent tux.

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

She doesn’t need to rent it, right?  Talk to the best man about it and not your sister.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

lizzimi:  If you have to, you can bring a family therapist into this. 

Post # 4
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

They’re acting petty, yes. However, some of us would argue that adults dressing in matching clothes is a lot more stupid looking than mismatched outfits. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

eh, there are plenty of mismatched bridesmaids these days, a mismatched best man isn’t the end of the world.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

lizzimi: If you want everyone to match, I guess it is your problem. Did you ask everyone in the wedding party what their budget was before choosing attire? That should have been your first step and should have avoided issues like this…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Just offer to pay the extra $60 and be done with it. It’s really not worth the stress to try to MacGuyver something, and it’s not a large amount of money.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Penang1885:  I agree, just pay the $60 difference.

Sorry, but it *is* your problem because it’s your wedding. Also, if you chose a wedding in peak season when tuxes are more expensive, why should they pay the difference? The same with you choosing a $160 tux instead of a $100 tux – why should they pay the difference when you chose the nicer tux for your wedding and your wedding photos?

I can only see two options: pay the $60 difference, or get a new best man. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

$100 6 years ago is equal to more than $100 today. They should consider inflation before they complain. 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

$160 is NOT a lot considering that bridesmaid dresses are usually waaaay more if not equivalent and do not come with shoes, makeup and hair or jewlery. I don’t think it’s to much to add considering the female always pays more for beauty. Maybe bring this point up and tell them they are lucky to get off so cheap as men

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Ls413:  +1

They’re really going to do the tit-for-tat thing?  OK.  $100 in 2008 is $109.75 today.  (http://data.bls.gov/cgi-bin/cpicalc.pl?cost1=100&year1=2008&year2=2014)

 

ETA: Some Bees talk about mis-matched BMs, and that’s perfectly fine for BM and/or GM.  But I think then all the GM would need to be mis-matched.  It sounds like this would be a classic Sesame Street “one of these things is not like the other.”

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Post # 12
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Wannabee

They do sound unreasonable, but unfortunately, this actually is your problem. They aren’t required to do anything for you. If they really won’t pay more than $100 and it’s that important to you, you should probably cough up the extra $60.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Not worth your emotional energy, hon. Either pay the difference or accept that it will be mismatched – you can’t OBLIGATE someone else to spend XYZ amount of money on anything, even if it’s your “special day.”

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

It sucks, but if I were you I would find a cheaper one to pacify them or pay the difference myself.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

lizzimi:  I’d just offer to pay the difference to cut through the BS. Even though its not right, its the best way to get what you want. 

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