Post # 1
FH and I were not planning to register for fine china because we can’t see ourselves using it until at least 10 years down the road. We live in a small apartment, our families live far away, there is no way we would host a formal dinner. But my aunt said I should because if I don’t get it now, I will never get it, or I will have to spend a bunch of money for it later on. Thoughts?
Post # 2
Keep in mind that depending on price point it may happen that some guests buy only one or two pieces to keep within their budget, and you could end up with a sparse set that you will have to pay yourself to complete.
Post # 3
The only person I know who uses fine china is my southern-raised grandmother, as she is mighty proper. I think it depends a lot on your intended lifestyle and the norm regarding china in your geographic area. For us, it would collect dust on a shelf and never see fresh air, but we do have friends who registered for fine china (they didn’t receive any of their pieces as gifts though).
If you have space to store it, then it wouldn’t hurt to register for china now, but it wouldn’t be the worst thing to wait and see if you’ll actually want it later on : )
Post # 4
If you wont use it for the next ten years I wouldnt put it on the registery. Who knows, in ten years time it may be really cheap or something better may have come along. I dont know anyone that actually uses china anymore, my parents, aunts and uncles have china hidden in drawers taking up space that they are afraid to throw out but never use! If you need it in a few years you could always buy it together as an anniversary gift!
Post # 5
kelsie5388: i am in the same boat as you. DH and I are saving for a house and so we dont have anywhere to put the china
On top of that when I was making my registry I didnt find any sets I liked. I plan to buy a set later when i have a house and somewhere to put it on display
Post # 6
kelsie5388: Does anyone in your family own some and do they ever use it?
I wasn’t sure whether to ask for some until I found out my mom had a full set which had never been used by her or her mother. It’s been used so little that it’s still in it’s original box from the 1930s. Waste of space, really.
If you think you will actually use it then it doesn’t hurt to register but if you’re more of a dishwasher and microwave safe person (I certainly am!) it’s wiser to register for something you will use frequently.
Post # 7
I didn’t register for it because it’s very expensive and there were so many other things that I wanted/needed. I was afraid people would buy the china and not the other things that, to me, were more important. Luckily my mom has an entire set of china that she is giving to me once I get a china cabinet.
Post # 8
I think it depends on whether you really want it or not. I really wanted it, so we registered for it (12 place settings and some accessories). We got about half of the china we registered for. We bought the rest ourselves using a Macy’s sale, completion discount, and gift cards (wedding gifts)…. all in all we paid about $50. We use it for special occasions and I’m so glad that we have it. That’s just me, though, not everyone wants it.
I think it also depends on whether there are things that you need more. We are in our 30s so there wasn’t much on our registry that was a basic need… more like nice to have stuff. If we were dying for someone to buy us pillows or towels, it might have made more sense to skip the china.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
I’m personally not bothering, but that’s largely because I know that I’ll be inheriting my mother’s entire collection and it’s gorgeous. It would be redundant and an unnecessarily expensive request to place upon my guests. I’d rather get a nice mixer for baking. 🙂
I think that you should register for what you want and need now – like, in the first few years of marriage to help you guys “get established”. If you’re not hosting fancy dinners, then I don’t think there’s any need.
Also, with regards to what your aunt mentioned, if you really want it down the line, you can save for that or seek out sales. 🙂
Post # 10
I love China and have 2 complete sets of fine china. I am the wrong person to ask!
Post # 11
I registered for fine china, sterling flatware, and Waterford goblets, and got a grand total of 1 sterling fork, as a gift. This was 37 years ago, when people didn’t ask about registries too much. (I think I got 3 crockpots at my shower, and returned all of them- never used one, to this day). We used our wedding gift money to buy the china/silver/crystal we didn’t get, which looking back, was a total waste of money. We have china service for 12, but when we hosted guests, we had more than 12, so had to mix with our everyday, or it was in the warmer months and outside, so we went with Chinet.
My nephew registered for china, for his wedding this past summer. It was the kind where you had to buy each individual piece – not 5-pc. place settings. I checked his registry, after the wedding, and no one bought a single piece.
One of my daughters registered and got 12 place settings of fine china. Her sister/maid of honor asked each of the bridesmaids for $250, to buy it as a joint gift from them, since they did not have to contribute to/host the shower, or buy their own gowns/shoes, etc. She also has everyday stuff – 4 place settings/$50. Daughter #2 registered for one type of $50/place setting china, so she wouldn’t have to deal with two different sets.
Post # 12
My 2 sets compliment each other, so I have service for like 20. Plenty!
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
We registered for china, because we liked the traditional aspect of it and we felt that it would be hard to justify buying it for ourselves someday. We registered for 8 place settings, a serving platter, a serving bowl, and 8 pasta bowls. We received everything except for two pasta bowls and they’re $60 each so we can definitely afford to complete the set in the future. We got Kate Spade Belle Boulevard and love it! We haven’t used the entire set yet, but I definitely plan to when we have kids and we’re having holiday suppers (: I don’t think it makes sense to register for it if you don’t ever see yourself using it though – especially if the thought of using it someday doesn’t make you really happy. People were actually surprised that we registered for china (and excited aha, I guess since no one does anymore) so it wouldn’t be weird if you skip it.
Post # 14
I don’t think I would have registered for it even if I didn’t already have a set. I would never use it anyway. The dishes we got are nice enough for having nice dinners. The only reason I have a set now is because my great grandma gave it to me. I don’t plan on ever using it. But I do plan on displaying a lot of it once I have the space. It’s gorgeous.
Post # 15
kelsie5388: I am definitely registering for a full set and I too live in a small apt. I’ll keep 6 here and the other 6 will be stored. In a few years we’ll move to a house and I love to entertain and dream of hosting holidays. You will nevvvver buy yourself a full set then… its too expensive for one person to buy. “It takes a village” haha. And it’s so sentimental that it’s your wedding china. My southern mom and her parents all have their wedding sets, yes I will inherit theirs but I want my own and don’t want to wait for that. I want mine while my parents are still around so I can have them over!
honestly fine china is just very entrenched in wedding tradition & sentimentality to me I couldnt dream of skipping it.