Post # 1
When I set out to create my registry, I wanted it to be reasonable and I wanted it to be almost entirely fulfilled. No $300 toasters on there or other gadgets that I’d never use. If other people want to put those things on their registry on the off-chance that somebody will buy them, that’s cool with me, but I didn’t want to do it. That being said, the most important things that I did want were a full set of china and crystal. I know that’s not for everybody, but I really want nice dinnerware.
We invited 135 guests and I registered for 141 items (counting each place setting and glass individually), which I thought was great because it was much less than any store recommended. I thought the store guidelines of 2 items per guest were inflated. I just couldn’t understand how my 135 guests would purchase 270 items, so my target for number of items was to have just a few more gifts on the registry than invited guests, knowing that I could always add more items if the registry was selling out.
In the end, we received about 100 of the 141 items that we registered for and the only things left on the registry are the china and crystal. 35% of our guests gave us cash, which I wasn’t expecting as it’s not the norm in our circle. 20% of our guests didn’t give us anything (also unexpected as all of our friends are well-established). None of this is said to complain about what we did or didn’t get, it just wasn’t what I expected after talking to friends and reading about other Bees’ experiences.
So in the end, my advice is to put much less than you think you’ll get on your registry, and to put the high priority items on first. If things are selling out, you can always add more!
Post # 3
Out of curiosity, did you have a shower? In my family most of the physical gifts are given at the shower with cash given at the wedding.
Post # 4
Yes, I should have said that. We got most of the physical gifts that were purchased at our shower. That’s also why the math doesn’t work if you look at the percentages of who gave what that I listed. So, the 100 gifts from the registry includes shower gifts.
Post # 5
I think this will vary a lot by circle. We received many more gifts than we had guests, even considering the shower.
Post # 6
I think the goal is usually to end up with 30 or si items left on your registry. That means the last person who bought a gift probably had at least two options, in their price range! So it sounds like it worked well for you, OP!
Post # 7
Definitely depends on the circle… I’m a totally foodie and cook a lot so I had a lot of cookware and gadgets on there; including “stretch” items that I thought no one would buy but I threw it on there so I could get my completion discount. In the end; we received 80% cash/checks/gift cards and 20% gifts off of the registry.
Post # 8
It sounds like it worked out well. You can use the cash gifts to buy the china and crystal with your registry discount.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think the 2 items per person thing is to allow for things like $5 rubber spatulas and $3 napking rings and $15 saucers and the like. For example, one person could easily gift 12 kitchen utensils for less than $50 or 3 or 4 individual items of crystal or china for under $100, etc.
Post # 10
I think it all comes down to dollars and what average gifts were, sort of along the lines of what @mrsSonthebeach: said.
Our place settings were fairly pricey, so the math wouldn’t work out on a per item basis. If your dishes are $40 a place setting that’s a whole different thing than if they’re $160, on an items/guest basis.
That said, yes, the stores always super-inflate what you should register for, they’re in the business of selling things.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge
We definitely registered for fewer items than the stores suggested and received only a small amount of gifts from our registry. This is partially due to the fact that my husband’s family does not give big gifts and a $20 item is considered sufficient. It’s hard to tell how things will work out with many different guests at a wedding.