Post # 1
My FI and I just registered at Target on Sunday. We didn’t get much because I just attended a friends wedding and they had registered for EVERYTHING (2 roasting pans, 6 pie plates and a $400 vacuum cleaner! Tackola!). We didn’t want to come off as rude so we registered for stuff we need.
FI is the 2nd heir to a very large and well-off Family farming business, so we won’t be absolutely deprived. We didn’t want people to think we were expecting anything. We tried to keep each thing under $30.
I think in all there was about 35 things. How much did you guys register for?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t feel too bad registering for a few larger items and still over the number of gifts you expect to recieve. It’s always nice to give people choices. Since a lot of people like to spend 50-100 on gifts I’d make sure to put some in those ranges. You’ll be surprised at what you get – plus some people go together to get larger items! Find some nice items around $50 range and you should be good! People will not look into your choices too carefully and they won’t think you’re rude! Its expected!
Post # 4
I think its okay to register for a variety of things in different prices. I tried to have a mix of everything from the under $10 dish towel to the $250 kitchenaid. And I think price is more important than quantity. I wouldn’t worry about registering for too many things as long as there is stuff in the lower price brackets for people to choose from. The only time I’ve raised my eyebrow at a registry was when the cheapest thing was a $50 thermometer.
Post # 5
I don’t think you should feel bad AT ALL about registering for more expensive things. Some people are going to want to spend money on you. The first thing bought off our registry was our $400 set of pots and pans and many of our $75-$100 items came next. It don’t think its tacky AT ALL to have these type of items on a registry and I do think you’re judging your friend’s choices a little harshly.
Personally – I’d be a little disappointed to pull up your registery as it currently stands because for a wedding I intend to get the couple something that is nicer than a $30 small appliance or something so there wouldn’t be anything on your registry that would fit my gift buying desires.
FYI – I’m from Fort Wayne, IN and am probably one of just a few people on this board who knows where Peru is! I always like seeing other people from IN!
Post # 6
We registered for a lot of expensive stuff b/c we want the discount after the wedding on that stuff! I dont expect a guest to buy me the $500 vacume but I want the 15% off after the wedding when I buy it.
I think its good to have a lot of stuff so it gives people options.
Post # 7
I think you should add in a few things in the $50-$100 range, and possibly add in a registry at a different store (since not everyone has a Target by them, and what’s in the store isn’t always online, and vice versa).
Post # 8
also a word of warning from someone with a target regisrty. Most of the time when things are bought from the registry they dont actully come off the registry! And if things are instore only sometimes they come up online as no longer avail, but dont delete the no long avail stuff like I did!
Post # 9
I agree with the other bees that you should have a little more range in your registry.
We also registered at Target and have about 50 items ranging in price from $5.00 to about $120. We would’ve gone a little higher but since we’re having a DW we certainly don’t expect anything from anyone.
However, people like options and sometimes groups of people even like to find the nicest thing on your registry and pitch in on it… coworkers as an example.
It’s your wedding. Feel free to focus on yourself a little more. =0)
Post # 10
I think you should add a little more to your registry. FI and I made sure that we had enough things on their that every guest invited would have the option of buying an actual gift if they wanted. Our prices ranged from like $1-$300 for a variety of things. We already have a house and have everything we could possibly need, so we just looked at it as upgrades and things that we could have for many years to come and be able to act like out grandparents and say “you know I got that as a wedding gift xx years ago and I still love it and still use it”
Post # 11
How many guests? The more guests, the larger range of things you can register for! 🙂
Post # 12
we didn’t register for a lot, only things we need. and we got complaints that there wasn’t enough. i wouldn’t be affraid to register for some more expensive items, some people want to get you a nice gift!
Post # 13
First of all, I would warn against calling anyone’s choices on their registries “tacky” because you have a lot of brides on the bee that you could be insulting…like me. I registered for a $400 vacuum.
It’s not because we’re trying to be selfish or greedy. I wanted a new vacuum so I put it on. If I get it, great. If I don’t, that’s fine too. At least then I will get a discount when I buy it myself after the wedding. I don’t expect anything. And to be honest, I was actually surprised at the number of items I did get and how generous people were. I registered for things thinking “we’ll never get that” and then there it was at the shower!! The pricier items seemed to be bought faster than the inexpensive ones. Have a wide range of price options- that’s the best method.
It’s wonderful that you are marrying someone who doesn’t have to worry about money but not everyone is as lucky and getting kind and generous gifts from our loved ones is much appreciated.
Post # 14
I did the same thing with our baby registry (we have a 3 year old). I heard that people were saying “Why would they put the crib and dressers on their registry?!” We never expected anyone to buy them but wanted the discount afterwards. And it turns out 2 people gave us gift cards for the amount of the crib! And we dont come from families with a lot of money. People can just be very giving.
We have yet to register for our wedding but we will put higher priced items as well. Putting a wider range of items on the list is best. People like to buy things they would like. And most will be willing to spend a little more if they are able to pick something they think you will just love, because they love it too. And those things you may need more than others, if you dont get them you can buy them discounted after your wedding 🙂
Post # 15
Oh my gosh! I am soo sorry everyone! I sounded like SUCH an uppity brat- wench! I was a bit frazzled at work and although it is NO excuse please pleeeease excuse my choice of words.
The couple I was referring to registered for strange things like video games, a new wii and a laptop (Again. To each his own). Then Friend-Bride ranted on FB how they didn’t receive these items. I know none of you ladies would do such a thing, because you refrained from tracking down this imbecilic freak (aka mwa) and scratching my eyes out, so I hope I don’t offend anyone by referencing it.
Please! All bees accept this apology! I reeeealy didn’t want to offend anyone and I am soooo sorry I chose words
I think I’m going to start drafting my posts to avoid future wench-haps
Post # 16
Don’t be so hard on yourself, I understood where you were coming from. I think that registries are delicate territory, and it’s okay to feel awkward about asking for gifts! Especially items that are less about entertaining and more about basic home maintenance.
Where I come from, people reserve the registry for things like china, crystal, better linens, upscale cookware, and other items that sort of signify a married household ripe for entertaining.
Things like cleaning supplies or personal grooming items aren’t as likely to show up on the list. Feasibly, the couple already has basic household items before getting married, unless they’re moving directly out of their parents’ homes?
That being said, I understand why some brides choose to add those types of things to the registry in order to get the discount.
So, I think it’s actually very appropriate to ask for more elegant, and maybe expensive items on your registry.
I just don’t want you to feel as though you said something wrong!
Congrats on your wedding!